Swallowing

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Registered: 03-19-2004
Swallowing
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:08pm
I know it varies for each man, but how important is swallowing or at least ejaculating in someone's mouth? I really dislike the smell and taste of semen, and will not allow a man to "finish" during oral sex. I either use oral sex as foreplay only, or finish the job with my hand. My boyfriend said that I am the only girl he has been with that won't do it, but he assured me that he is okay with the fact that I don't. I know that he wished I would though.

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Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:38pm
I don't swallow. I do allow my DH to finish in my mouth but he could care less whether I swallow it or not. It's AFTER the fact. So, I spit.

But you already answered your own question...it's important to SOME men but not all men think so. Most are just pleased and grateful that they get oral sex at all. If your guy is fine with your choice, then don't worry about it.

IF you want to try and learn to get over your aversion to the smell and taste of his semen though, then you might try using flavored lubes or just keeping a soda or some sweet drink close by so that you can take a sip after you swallow or spit.

I really don't think swallowing is a "make or break" issue in relationships though!

Avatar for debra1016
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:09pm
I agree. I have never had a man complain that I didn't swallow. I can let it go in my mouth, but I spit it out also. You can really develop a technique where it goes in and you can spit it out at the same time and they won't even know it. Or, you can just keep on doing what you have been doing - it seems like your guy is happy with it the way it is. Some men's semen tastes worse than others so if it's that bad to you, don't worry about it. I find that it's the whole act itself that is enjoyable to the man, not just the climax, so if you've gotten no complaints about your technique, and he's happy, then don't stress about it.

 

 

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 5:37pm
I agree with the others, it shouldn't be a big deal. I swallow most of the time, but if I don't want to DH doesn't care. He likes when I do, but it's not needed for his pleasure.

Leticia

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 5:51pm
My husband doesn't really say he wants me to swallow - a few times maybe, but he just likes to climax in my mouth, on my breasts, etc. I hate it in my mouth too. I think most women who allow their SO's to climax in their mouth and all are doing it to please their guy mainly. I've never met a woman yet who has insisted that she loves to swallow cum, lol.
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 7:45pm
I can't do it. I try and I have before, but I feel nauseated after. It's a texture thing for me. And yes, I've felt very self-conscious about it, but DH is happy. I too do the hand job thing or let it dribble from my mouth. I've swallowed with him before and it was okay, but I don't like it so he isn't about making me. And he says it's no big deal.

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Registered: 06-06-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 9:06am
I read somewhere that if you have your SO eat or drink certain things his cum will taste better. Is this true, and what kind of things will do this? I think I read pineapple?

Jenn

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:54am
This is a myth. You would have to eat or drink huge amounts of fruit, etc. for the semen to be affected. And of course, with lots of fruit comes diarrhea.

Drinking 8 glasses of water a day will do more good and keep toxins from building up in the body. Or popping a strong mint like an Altoid can help or sipping a drink after he ejaculates. Flavored lubricants are also an option to mask a strong taste.

You can always just finish him with your hand, too.

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Registered: 06-06-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:53pm
Thanks for letting me know, I didn't really think it would work...I've never let him cum in my mouth before only on my breasts. It doesn't gross me out I just wanted to know if the fruit thing actually worked!

Thanks a ton!

Jenn

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:51pm
>>Drinking 8 glasses of water a day will do more good and keep toxins from building up in the body.<<

Yep, I definitely know when DH hasn't been drinking enough water. It tends to be a bit thicker and a more concentrated flavor.

Leticia

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:12pm

From my perspective as a man, its a minor deal, but given a choice I would prefer to finish in the mouth. I like to get lost in the sensation and not have any sudden changes in the last minute or so. For the same reason, I prefer to finish inside during intercourse.


That said, I've tasted semen, and I recognize that it will never replace chocolate syrup as a dessert topping. I don't think its so bad, but I understand why someone might want to either not have it in their mouth in the first place or spit it out. At that point, I'm laid back savoring the orgasm I just had anyhow, so it won't make a big difference.


I think swallowing after oral sex is like cunnilingus after intercourse - the idea is a huge part of the attraction. You just figure if someone would do *that* for your pleasure, they must really love you/be turned on by you/be willing to serve you, or just that they're really into the act.

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