Swallowing

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Swallowing
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:08pm
I know it varies for each man, but how important is swallowing or at least ejaculating in someone's mouth? I really dislike the smell and taste of semen, and will not allow a man to "finish" during oral sex. I either use oral sex as foreplay only, or finish the job with my hand. My boyfriend said that I am the only girl he has been with that won't do it, but he assured me that he is okay with the fact that I don't. I know that he wished I would though.
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Registered: 05-14-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:36pm
Ok, I guess I am just all alone on this one then. I actually really do enjoy swallowing and I really don't mind the taste, texture, etc. I would rather have him climax in my mouth over my face or breats anyways so even if I didn't like the taste, I think I would learn to like it in the long run to avoid that situation. Luckily JT would rather climax in my mouth so it doesn't phase him that I wouldn't/won't let him do it on my body. I'm weird, I know but it works for us so it's ok!!
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:48pm
We're discussing this very subject in our counseling right now. It has been interesting to hear what the counselor has been saying and then what my husband tells me. His climaxing on my face and breasts is a definite control issue of his. (well, we knew that). He admits that he has a problem with this. He says he loves me completely, but he sometimes gets in a mood where he wants to completely dominate and control me and my body - it is something he gets completely engulfed in and he can't get out of it once he or I should say "we" have crossed a certain line of our sex. We're trying to figure out where the line is.
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:53pm
Not saying that all men have control issues when they want to climax in the mouth, but for us, it is. Neither of us know where to draw the line and I'm not sure if we even do want to have a line. We do, but we don't. She also told us that we are definitely involved in a dominant/sub dominate relationship/marriage. She said there was nothing wrong with that since it really only affects our sex life. She was glad to hear that the other parts of our lives are very normal. So it is very interesting talking with her and delving into things.
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 4:06pm
It is in no way any type of a control issue when he climaxes in my mouth. It is just what works for the both of us. He is actually the first guy that I have done that too and at first, I would never let him climax in my mouth, I just finished him off with my hand. I thought it was too weird but now that it has happened and I saw that I was totally comfortable with the whole thing, we love it! LOL

I am glad to see that things seem to be going good in your counseling sessions. It takes a lot to get even yourself there but for the both of you to be there, it takes even more. I hope things continue to get better and your issues can be eventaully solved and work out for the best.

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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 4:58pm
I know, it is not necessarily a control thing with other couples, just for us. It use to be just normal - probably like a lot of couples, but the straddling over me, holding my head and letting it shoot all over me IS a control thing for him. It's like he turns into some monster and the sound he makes when doing that to me is scary. He admitted he feels out of control when he does this - so that is good. I think this counselor is really helping him/us.

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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 5:00pm
It's good to hear that you two are making some progress. Best of luck to you and getting all your issues worked out.
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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 8:00pm
I probably need to review the articles about this.

Not only has research discovered "conclusively" that what you consistently eat and how much water you drink daily actually affects the smell of urine, but they ALSO mentioned for the taste of semen as well. This is, of course, minus any problems of disease or physical ailments.

Plenty of times we hear about avoiding red meats, dairy and aspargus (sp?) as well as loading up on pears/apples/pineapples (not necessarily all fruits, but those in particular) along with plenty of water. Many women right here on these boards have already posted the differences they themselves have noticed.

I don't believe its necessarily the "amount of" certain foods that impact anything, but its more the "consistent" amounts that research has highlighted.

Just remembering some medical/sex articles from the recent about this, no biggie.

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Mon, 06-28-2004 - 11:09am
I would assume that most people try to eat a balanced healthy diet consisting of lots of vegetables and fruits, some meat and carbs and plenty of water though.

Alcohol, coffee and cigarettes, which are chemicals primarily, can leach into pores, etc. affecting the taste of the skin.

But my DH's urologist and my gyno have both said that adding more pineapple or more fruit to the diet will do nothing to affect the taste of semen or lubrication and that water is much more beneficial. And that hormones affect how strongly a bodily fluid will taste more than anything.

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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 10:03am
From a man's point of view & strictly my own... It's not that important but would be nice. The most important part is not interrupting the rythm & spoiling the orgasm. MY DF did a really good job of not breaking the rythm las week. This was her first time taking me all the way & right before I came she decided she didn't want to try swallowing that time but still didn't disrupt the flow of things. I told her it was allright & appreciated the attention she had given me. She felt bad & said she just chickened out. It was no big deal but now we refer to semen as chicken goo!LOL I know that sounds gross but at least we can laugh about it.

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Registered: 06-22-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 10:21am
OK, I might be weird, but I don't mind it at all in my mouth. Never have. It's really easy to swallow if he is already deep enough in your mouth. It just kind of rolls down your throat, no big deal at all. I know guys really appreciate it when there isn't any mess to clean up too. :) Just try it, it isn't gross, it's actually very intimate. And think - he is swallowing all of YOUR fluids when he goes down on you. Why not return the favor?