"The Talk"

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Registered: 05-06-2003
"The Talk"
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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 12:13pm
Okay, so I'm seeing a new guy and I'm ready to take our relationship to the next level. But we haven't had the sex talk yet (ex. are you having sex with anyone else, where is this relationship headed, those type of questions...) I'm not really sure how to bring up the subject. I've never had to have this conversation before - I was with my last boyfriend for six years and we were each others first, so there was no need for the conversation. I'm just trying to figure out when and how to talk about this. Maybe I'm making this more complicated than it should be, but I'm new at this so bare with me.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 7:58pm

Welcome to the board uscgyrl.

I would try to have "the talk" with him in a casual setting -- not when you're about ready to do the deed. Perhaps earlier in the evening, during a walk in the park, or sometime when you are just enjoying each others company. Maybe let him know upfront that you're not comfortable having a casual, sexual relationship and gauge his reaction to that. Chances are, if you have been dating for a while, he already has an idea about how you feel on the subject.



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