Talk about sex

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Talk about sex
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 11:51am
My boyfriend and I have come close to having sex, but I have not been ready. I am now ready to have sex, should I just come out and tell him this? Will it make him uncomfortable? Thanks!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: britneyw
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 12:27pm
If you have come close and are now ready, just let him know that you are now ready.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: britneyw
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 2:38pm

Don't worry too much about him being uncomfortable. If you are going to have sex then it would be best if you two can talk comfortably about it. I've found that once you get over the initial embarrassment of talking about things that have always been awkward to talk about, then you can have good communication with your partner. After-all, if he's going to try to put a condom on and put his penis into you, it'd be good to be able to talk about it.

Bite the bullet and talk to him. It'll get easier the more you talk. Even if he says something shocking don't laugh or be disgusted. You'll find that when he realises that he can tell you embarrassing things without being laughed at or told that he is disgusting, he will tell you what he wants and you won't have to wonder about it or get worried whether or not you are doing the right thing.

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Registered: 11-03-2004
In reply to: britneyw
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 10:56pm
yes i would have that convo because if you didnt you would say no right so if you do tell him in a foreplay kind of way and let it be the intro to your sexapade