Talking about sex.

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Talking about sex.
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Wed, 04-04-2007 - 3:56am
Do you talk about sex to anyone in RL, apart from your partner?

How did you learn about sex, about menstruation, sex, and reproduction?

Have you ever taken anyone in hand in RL, and talked to them about sex in order to educate them? (I consider this to be different from my first question).

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Registered: 01-19-2006
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 5:08am
Do you talk about sex to anyone in RL, apart from your partner?

Yes, I talk about it with my sister, and a couple of close friends. But not as much as I talk about it here online.


How did you learn about sex, about menstruation, sex, and reproduction?

My mother, she took great care to make sure her girls were informed before we hit puberty.



Have you ever taken anyone in hand in RL, and talked to them about sex in order to educate them?

Yes, I have, but mostly to answer questions and correct some misinformation about sexual practices.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 8:49am
Do you talk about sex to anyone in RL, apart from your partner?



I have talked with several of my GFs about sex, and I have one male friend that I have talked about sex with since meeting him in college. When we were both single, we would go out on the town, often ending up at a bar, sitting there talking in depth about the things that we like about sex. It was always interesting to watch the bar tender react as he/she didn't know if we were a couple or just friends. Some of them probably thought we had wild orgies because we would talk about different sexual partners (LOL)!



Also, my libido has been on a significant rise in the past year. For a couple of months all I did was think about sex, and I found that I talked to a lot of people about sex. It's amazing how many people will talk about sex if you start a conversation with them.

How did you learn about sex, about menstruation, sex, and reproduction?



Mostly I learned through the health education classes at school. I also had a book called "Sex and the Teenage Girl" which discussed having sex and sex acts (like oral sex). My mother didn't talk openly (or positively) about sex, so it was probably a lot better that way!



Have you ever taken anyone in hand in RL, and talked to them about sex in order to educate them? (I consider this to be different from my first question).



Well, I have 2 kids and 2 step-children. I have had several conversations with them. I also had a friend who was a rather late bloomer and I discussed sex with her when she first became active (she was asking question mostly). Very recently I had a discussion with a 67 yo woman who thought sex was over-rated! That was a very interesting conversation -- she ended up showing me her sex toys!





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Registered: 06-07-2006
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 9:21am

>>Do you talk about sex to anyone in RL, apart from your partner?<<

Yes, I do. I talk to my best friend about sex. He knows the crazy little things that go on in my head, and I tell him things that I wouldn't tell anyone else (other than my bf). There's also a female friend who I used talk about sex with, but it's usually about cool stuff we would like to try (we used to work together - haven't spoken much since I left there).

>>How did you learn about sex, about menstruation, sex, and reproduction?<<

I learned the majority of what I know about sex from my current bf - he was experienced and he helped me a lot to explore my sexuality. I was very shy and reserved - partly because of the experience I had with my first sexual partner. He was cheating on me and when I confronted him about it he admitted it. He went on to saying that he's loves me because he surely wasn't with me "because of the sex". So, I was very scared of getting into another (sexual) relationship. When I did, I decided to read about "techniques" and how to please him and from talking to him, I found out what he likes as well as myself.
I actually learned about menstruation when it happened. I lived (and still do) with my grandmother and she didn't really tell me about sex and all these things. So, when my period showed up (at age 10) I freaked out and was crying. Then I told my older cousin (who lived close by) about what was happening and she told me about exactly what it is, and helped to get "supplies". lol

>>Have you ever taken anyone in hand in RL, and talked to them about sex in order to educate them? (I consider this to be different from my first question).<<

I have. My younger cousin and I live together (with my grandmother and her father), so she looks up to me for knowledge. Most of the time she asks questions and I try to answer them, as well as explain to her that she should be careful. I never had someone to talk to me about anything sexual, so I try to impart my knowledge on her. As well as trying to steer her in the right direction.




Edited 4/4/2007 9:24 am ET by princess_j2006
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Wed, 04-04-2007 - 9:56am

Interesting questions...

--Do you talk about sex to anyone in RL, apart from your partner?
I speak to my girlfriends, and one male friend. However, I don't talk about it to any of my friends from my home country. It's very conservative here in that respect, and even though people know that you might be sexually active, we just don't speak about it like that. It's different when I'm with my English friends though. Sex is a lot less taboo in the UK, so we just gab away about it. Though I can be a bit prudish. HA!

--How did you learn about sex, about menstruation, sex, and reproduction?
School and books. I don't ever recall my mother sitting us down and giving us 'the talk', and I think I would have been highly embarassed if she had. However, I went to an all-girls' Catholic school (complete with pleated skirt and tie!), and sex was only mentioned in the same breath as marriage and babies. But my friends and I used to real Mills & Boon and Silhouette Desire, and that's how we learnt about sex being used for fun. Oddly enough, it didn't scar me or give me a bad view of sex. Nor did it make me rush out and pop my cherry before the age of 14. I think I have a very healthy and realistic sexual attitude and appetite. Hmmmm.

--Have you ever taken anyone in hand in RL, and talked to them about sex in order to educate them?
When I was at uni, I used to mentor some girls in secondary school. It was really good, in that they needed someone to talk to about stuff they didn't feel comfortable approaching their teachers or families with. I was very careful in the things I said to them though. But it was amazing how much damage can be done by lack of education. And I was glad I was at an age where I was able to offer some good advice to them about sex, birth control and relationships. I also did the same for a student's daughter. She had her first boyfriend and was very curious and was at an age where all her friends were experimenting. I felt kind of honoured that she came to me and was really glad to be able to help her. And the great thing was, her mother was happy that she felt comfortable enough to talk to someone, even if it wasn't her!

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Wed, 04-04-2007 - 11:08am

Do you talk about sex to anyone in RL, apart from your partner?
Yes, with a few girlfriends I've known forever

How did you learn about sex, about menstruation, sex, and reproduction?
My father explained most of it to me. My mother was emotionally unavailable to me.

Have you ever taken anyone in hand in RL, and talked to them about sex in order to educate them?
I didn't initiate these conversations, but I have several nephews that are close in age. The one I helped raise would come to me with questions he didn't want to ask his dad. He never felt comfortable talking to his mother about sex. Most of the things we discussed dealt with how women feel about certain things and what he should do in certain situations. Evidently, I didn't scar him for life and he told his cousins to talk to me if they wanted to know anything! lol And they did...