Talking Dirty
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Talking Dirty
| Mon, 12-11-2006 - 9:00am |
I love it when my boyfriend talks dirty. I would love to send him sassy little text messages during the day or leave dirty voice mails but unless we are having sex I feel a little weird talking dirty. I will be away from him for 4 days soon and I want to suggest phone sex but again I dont know that I can get over the weird feeling when Im not having sex... any text ideas or ways to get over my slight fear???

One of the most dificult things to do is get over our own hang-ups. We all have them. Recognize that they are simply hang-ups and not major character flaws.
Some times the answer is to just do it. My suggestion would be to come up with (as you described it) something sassy but not too over the top. See how your man reacts. If he likes it (my guess is that he really will) then expand to more racy little texts and notes.
One step at a time and you will find that your comfort level with this whole thing goes up. Just remember to be yourself - if you have had the thought then express it. I'm in trouble in my relationship because I held back and didn't express myself - learn from my mistake and go for it.
Good Luck!
First, put this in perspective...will slight fear or feeling "a little weird" kill you? No. If you don't do this, will it ruin your life? Obviously, not. So, don't magnify any act or action beyond it's reality.
Do we ever feel completely comfortable the first time we do anything? No. So, the only way to begin feeling comfortable about doing anything the first time is to just grit your teeth and go through the discomfort. It won't kill you, really.
So, if you would love to text a dirty message to your BF, or suggest phone sex, do it. You have to take the first step before you can get comfortable with it.