Teasing - Unpleasant?

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Teasing - Unpleasant?
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 7:24am

When giving my BF oral sometimes I bring him to the brink of orgasm then stop and do something else until he's calmed down a bit then start again.. I do this a few times until he can't stand it any more and I let him come. I always find he comes harder and for longer when I do this so I thought it must be better for him? (as well as giving me more play time!) but the other night afterwards he commented "You're going to have to stop the teasing thing" I don't know if he was being serious or just meaning as in it's too much? I didn't question him about it at the time and now the moment has passed really.

Can teasing (during oral or sex) be uncomfortable or unpleasant for men??

Personally I love being held on the brink of orgasm for as long as possible but I never thought he might not actually like it?

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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 8:16am

It depends on what your


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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 8:46am

Hi,

Sorry in advance if this is TMI I'll try and word it tactfully!

When I give oral I try and mix it up a bit so vary speed, depth etc. but BF sometimes stops me after about half a minute because he says he is going to come and does not want to come so soon so I have to 'dull' it down a bit! But I like to take breaks where I lick and play with his balls, concentrate on just the head etc. then resume 'standard oral' before stopping to play a bit more when he is on the brink. I do that usually only 2 or 3 times before I up the pace and play with his balls etc. and let him come which he usually does pretty quickly! I don't do it all the time as that could get a bit tiring I know, usually about 50/50 if he is tired or we are short on time I just let him finish straight away within a few minutes.

I will probably ask him about it at some point just curious really on other mens experience of this.. is teasing pleasurable? Is your orgasm better if it's prolonged? Or is it just annoying or actually 'too much'?




Edited 11/10/2006 10:01 am ET by afbe
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:48am
What you describe is what I've been doing for 29 yrs and I've never had a complaint. Of course, it's not something I do EVERYtime. I have always broken up my oral assault with: kisses/licks down the inner thigh; Caresses around the rump and anus; Massaging the area between the sacks and anus (xh couldn't open his legs wide enough for this one); light finger touch all up the torso (besure to stop and play with chest hairs) and sometimes I'll start kissing at the thigh and work down to the toes. I'm proud to say that my men never know my routine once I'm down there. Of course sometimes I just want to suck and suck only. Call it funny, but I consider BJ all about me because I know it's one time I can control his enjoyment and there's nothing he can do except pull me off and f*** my brains out. (sometimes every action does have a positive reaction!)
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Registered: 10-31-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 11:49am
Oh yeah, teasing is awesome and I have a thunderous orgasim and really explode. But, alas, since I have never had a BJ, my opinion is based on receiving a hand job or foot job. But I do love to be teased!!

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Registered: 10-18-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 11:58am

I tend to vary a bit from time to time, so he doesn't know what is coming! LOL

That said, the other night was all about starting and stopping - actually for several hours via text and telephone before he got home. Needless to say it was explosive when it finally happened - for both of us!

 

 

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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 12:59pm

I suppose if you keep at it REALLY long those nerve endings get saturated and it's not fun anymore, sort of like just after an orgasm; most folks need a little time to regroup before they want to be touched again. If you move your attention elsewhere then come back after a bit it's OK.

For my part some of the most intense experiences I've had have been excruciatingly long teases followed by an sudden finishing-off move, but those have been few and far between.

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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 7:07pm
Sounds like the sort of BJ that I love. It does make the orgasm when it comes bigger and better. There are some days when I just want to cum though and don't want to be teased. I just want my orgasm! The teasing would be annoying at those times but it's no problem for me to tell her to make me cum or to stop the teasing on those days.
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 5:31am
It is best to ask outside of the bedroom. Everyone has their own preferences and it may be he enjoys it every so often and not all of the time.