Teen sex

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2004
Teen sex
32
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 7:04pm
I have an issue, and need some opinions. My neighbor and I have been friendly for years(our kids are best friends). She recently confided in me(she was crying)that she found a whole load of teen porn on her husband's computer dating back a few years. Would you allow your daughter(she's 15) to be around him unsupervised? Legalities aside, do you think he's capable of acting on his fantasies?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:04pm
But just because this guy looks up some teenage porn on-line, that doesn't make him a pedophile. So far, that just makes him a very horny man.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:19pm
Pedophile is someone who is SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to children.

Here's a rundown of the profile of a pedophile:

http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=273



iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2004
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:26pm
Well Free, the same thing can be said about men and sex. No, I do realize my girls could be seduced, but that is not my point. I trust my girls to make the best desicion, and when I don't, I make the decision for them. Something like this is probably harmless, but to be on the safe side I would again recommend against it. Keeping an eye on them is a good thing, and should be done anyway, but we cannot always be watching our children, now can we. I really wish we could, because they would not be out of my site till I handed them off to there husbands. LOL. But it isn't possible, feasible, or even absolutely necessary. Who knows what the real story is here, but safe is much better than sorry.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:32pm
I would have to know more about this guy before I just assumed he was a pedophile. We haven't heard anything back from the OP yet. He might be looking up all kinds of porn in addition to the teenage porn. Not a good thing to always be downloading this stuff, but I wouldn't jump to conclusions based solely on that. I still would be cautious of him being around my own daughter, yes, but labeling him that - no.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:48pm
Well...exactly how much more do you think you're going to EVER find out? The OP stated that the evidence dated back years, which IMO, translates to stored files, not simply temporary internet pages being stored on the computer. What does having other porn have to do with the fact that he has loads of teen porn? More than likely, there won't be any OTHER evidence to go by...so a judgement call on the parents part with regard to the children has to be made. Unfortunately, we have to make judgements every day based on our instincts alone. Better to err on the side of protection.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:56pm
Right. Thats why I agreed with some of the others about not having the daughter around him alone. I just don't agree with calling him a pedophile, yet.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 3:29pm
I believe you were the first one to use the label here. The fact that everyone is taking precautions, means that everyone feels there's a possibility.
Avatar for katmandoo2001
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 3:38pm
Not only that, Free, but girls who are insecure about themselves, and name one who isn't, can be seduced by the attention and flattery of an older man. Or with money and gifts. Many young girls are seduced into prostitution just that way.
Avatar for katmandoo2001
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 3:42pm
I didn't say he was a pedophile. Please reread my original response. It's the first one she received.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: murphyslaw2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 3:42pm
You and katmandoo used the pedophile label, not I.