Tens (and Nine, Eight, Sevens....)

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Tens (and Nine, Eight, Sevens....)
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 2:51pm
Men often rank women as being a 1 through 10 number, as we know. Maybe women do this too, but if they do, it seems to be less often that women put an overall score on a person they're involved with (not sure about that)! I'd love to understand this scoring thing better. I'm assuming that it almost always means just looks, and other judgments would be stated some other way. ;-D

So, what exactly is a "Ten"? My guess is that's the unattainable...the Sports Illustrated swimsuit cover, the models in the Victoria's Secret catalog, the movie stars and pop stars. Women that men put on a pedestal but never imagine they're really going to get...their idea of "ideal" woman. Is this right?

Is a "Nine" a real woman they might see in real life, not famous but probably the most popular girl in high school, or the most beautiful woman in town? Somebody that the majority of men are still not going to get a date with?

So what is left in the "Seven and Eight" bracket are more attainable, pretty/cute but slightly less than perfect women? Is this about right? How MUCH less than perfect?

What would a four, five or six be?

I would LOVE to hear specific definitions of what these rankings mean, especially to the men. :)

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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 3:50pm
Since perfection doesn't exist,but only the perception of it, then that would have to differ per man I would assume. But after asking my DH what he thinks a "10" is, he said someone who has it all....brains, personality, looks and sex appeal. It's less about looks and more about the whole package for him. He believes that looks, even the most appealing looks, get boring if there's nothing else to discover beyond that. And let's face it, if you like the person inside, the outside only becomes more attractive!
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 4:16pm
Well, you have a smart husband! ;-D

Assuming a guy doesn't know a woman, though...most men will still make some kind of assessment, as we've all heard them talking about women they don't even know, have only seen, and say something like "there goes a 10". Or maybe in talking about their wives or girlfriends (even in a forum like this one) will call her a "seven". Or some might say, "I only date "eights and nines". So out of curiosity, that's what I'm asking...what does that mean to them?

Still, I like your hubbie's definition. It means he'd have to get to know her to rank her. :)

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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 4:17pm
I don't know if I am the only person on earth who thinks this way but I have had several people think I am crazy for thinking like this, but here's my take on your question. When I see a guy, I can *never* think "Oooo, he's hot!" or the other way around and see him as needing a few improvements. I cannot judge or say that someone is a 10, 9, 8, etc. until I get to know them. That is when I can judge them and really make a decision. I say this becuase I actually know quite a few women and men that if I were to go simply on looks, I would say they may be attractive. **BUT** since I know them on another level, they are quite UGLY!! This one woman in particular is very beautiful on the outside but at the same time is so rude and nasty to other people that she is down right b*thcy and very ugly to me. Maybe that is why I have to really get to know a person before I judge them. It's funny to me that JT thinks and talks about how "not-so-hot" my exes were and thinks I was too good for them, but I just can't go by just the looks. People are attractive to me because of who they are on the inside. It is only then that the outside can become attractive, to me that is. I do think I am pretty lucky because I no longer get teased about the looks of JT, since to others who do know I judge the way I do, they think he is pretty darn hot! LOL Sorry, I know I probably didn't answer your question the way you were expecting answers, but this is just my two cents on the subject and how I view what you are talking about.
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 4:27pm
That's exactly the way my mind works, too. When I was still dating, I dated all kinds/types of different looks. The more attractive a man's personality and intelligence was to me, the more attractive he was to me. I've never been one that was highly attracted to men specifically for their looks (like Brad Pitt looks), but I'm a woman and men are more visual. Many men do have this ranking of looks thing, which is what I'm curious about. I'd like to hear what each rank means, in their minds.
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 4:30pm
YAY!! I'm not alone!! LOL
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 5:54pm
But that's my point. It will differ from man to man. One man's "10" will be another man's 7-8. For example, Jennifer Anniston is very popular with the guys. But she's very girl-next-doorish, not drop dead gorgeous at all, IMO. Some men would rate her a 10 but my DH considers her a 7-8. It's the personality, intelligence, etc. that makes the difference.
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 6:00pm
This is going to reveal my age ... does anybody remember Bo Derek and Dudley Moore in the film "10?"

I believe it goes way back to the late 1970's. Dudley, going through his mid-life crisis, spots a prefect "10" (Bo Derek) while she is on her way to her wedding. He obsesses over her, follows her on her honeymoon, and makes a fool of himself.

... sort of a typical male thing, eh? :-)

Dudley was ranking her a 10 purely on looks. How else can one assign points to a woman that they have not met?

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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 6:32pm

I haven't read the rest of the posts....so forgive me if I repeat someone else.


I think it's a handicap system relating to the amount of beer that he must consume before she looks good enough to have sex with.

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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 7:41pm
IMO, this shouldn't be about looks, but more about the personality and the way he/she would treat you. I think the whole rating system blows, but that's just me. And I'm not saying this because I'm some circus freak. I'm actually pretty hot.

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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 7:59pm
Here a guy's POV:

Using that number scale is totally based on how a woman looks, visually. After all, guys look at women they don't know and never will know and assign a ranking - for example, girls in magazines like Playboy and the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue, as well as a girl that they just see out in public.

I think you have the ranking down pretty well.

10 - Very gorgeous supermodel types, Playboy Playmates, and so on... (Tyra Banks)

7-9 - women that are very attractive to differing degrees.

5,6 - average and a little above average.

Of course, the women that fall into these rankings differ as greatly as the personalities of men. For example, *many* men I know would say Pamela Anderson is a perfect 10. I do not think she's that attractive at all, with her huge fake breasts. I might rank her a 7, she's just not my type at all.

Also note, that this stuff all goes out the window when guys are looking for a SO. When you factor in personality and the total package, many "average" women become 8's or 9's.

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