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Sat, 01-07-2006 - 3:55pm
thanks for the advise. ed & i are taking things very slowly. he is a gentleman & wouldn't do things any other way. his previous relationship was marriage, they were married for 30 yrs when she passed away. ed is 25 yrs older than i am so the era he was brought up in is very different than that of now days or even the era that i grew up in. over the holidays ed bought me a ring & told me that he is waiting for the right time for us to make love, but he does love me & only wants the best for me. there have been times where he has "slowed" me down because he doesn't agree that it was the right time for us to make love. him having oldfashioned values is not the easiest thing but if we are meant to be together it will work. i am posisitve that he does not have any other woman that he is seeing because it is not his style to have more than one woman at a time.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: gedsmermaid
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 12:19am

I'm totally confused! In your original post, you said his last "relationship" lasted over 15 years. Now, it's a marriage that lasted 30 years?

You also said that you see each other every day, you "bump" into each other. What kind of "relationship" is that? He bought you a ring? Unless it's an engagement ring, it's just a piece of jewelry, nothing more.

You also said in your original post that every time you talk to him he brings up sex. NOW you're saying he's old fashioned, and he's waiting for the "right time to make love".

If he was married 30 years, that makes him at least 50, if not more. If he's 25 years older than you, that's a BIG age difference.....and he's way too old for someone in their twenties! You two have nothing in common, including your views on sexuality.

You need to think long and hard about this "relationship".

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: gedsmermaid
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 9:15am

Could you please clear up the many


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Registered: 06-25-2004
In reply to: gedsmermaid
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 8:32pm
yes i did say that ed & his wife were (in a relationship) married over 15 yrs it should have been 30 yrs. i was not sure how long they were married when i first posted. he is in his 50s & i am 35. some think that this is to old to be compatable, but age should not make any difference. also, ed causually brings up sex, but not talking about us making love, just sexual things in general as if to see what i am into & what i do not go for. as a matter of fact today he picked me up for work. he called me to see what time i would be ready. i told him the usual time, but he ended up arriving at my house early (when i was still getting dressed). i was covered, bra & panties, but when i went into the room, he closed & covered his eyes turning his head the opposite direction. if he wanted to he could have made love to me then & there, but he was a gentleman the entire time. i wanted him to make love to me, so i walked in front of him while in my bra & panties, but he did not look. he said "that the timing was not right for us to be together sexually, but in time we would". he did get me a ring for christmas, he called it a promise ring, which i thought that the whole idea of the promise ring was cute.