thanks for the advice, but...

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Registered: 03-04-2007
thanks for the advice, but...
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 10:10pm

I can't find my original post. Usually I see the link "more" under the last post to display other posts, but it's not here tonight.

I thought I may as well post again since I'm already here and it's almost bedtime.

My post was about whether or not guys think it's a turn off when a girl is hairy and inbetween waxing cycles. I said the hair has to be a certain lenght before it gets waxed again and thought maybe guys find it unattractive to see a big, sloppy mess or hair where it shouldn't.

I read all your answers and thought maybe I am just a little insecure. I'm almost 32 and had only one boyfriend who I never saw. I was 25 and it lasted 3 months. Then I went on 4 dates with another guy, he called me everyday, took me to dinner, etc. I slept with him on the 4th date and he never called again.

One more comment/question: I have red scars from ingrown hairs and they are like polka dots scattered around the bikini area. Is that a turn off?

I guess I'm just a little insecure.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 10:49pm

You are being way to hard on yourself! The guys you want to be with see past all that stuff. FOr example, Lets say I am really into you, and I love the fact that you keep things well trimmed or even shaven. I also know and accept that you might have ingrown hairs, or razor burn, or stubble. I don't care cause I am into the whole package, not just your package. Now, might this imply that you are critical of others and so, in turn, you are critical of yourself? Only you can answer that. But the right guy sees past all the minor stuff. I'm sure all the guys here will echo that sentiment.

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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 12:42am
I found your original post. You have to click on the little pink "more" link at the bottom of "sex talk" section, and it will bring you there . There are 30-some odd replies in there, and some really good insight. Yes, I think you are being a little hard on yourself, and as you become more experienced, things will become more comfortable for you.
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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 5:10am

You need to stop worrying about and stop being insecure about your body.

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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:32am
Well said Tish!


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Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 1:31pm
Ditto, Ditto, Ditto

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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 4:50pm

Hmm,

I like to give oral, so I like a trimmed or shaved pubic area, BUT if she wants hair, my fingers can move it aside -- either way is fine. It is my understanding that after a wax the hair grows back smooth, while a shaved area is not. I completely agree with the others, do what you want and belief more in your-self. I consider it an honor to be allowed that close to a woman, but if pushed into an answer, yes I might be put off by the razor bumps/ingrown hairs. The hair can come or go either way. In my mind I might think STD, and might just back off with out saying much and see if my trust in both of our health was mis-placed, if I saw an ingrown hair or razor bumps. Sad but true we all should talk more, but we get caught up in the moment and sometimes fear takes over or worse we don't have any fear, etc...... I might let my mind go onto think we only see each other every so often, what has the other person been doing with out me.

Embrace your flaws, and remember he/she/ they said yes when they could have said no!

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