Is there something wrong with me
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Is there something wrong with me
| Wed, 02-01-2006 - 2:57pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. and Sex used to be really exciting. I used to get so turned on by him doing things to me during foreplay, what he does feels really good, i just cant get wet. Now the only way i can get turned on is by giving head, or watching him masterbate (which has always been my biggest turn on). But he doesnt let me watch him masterbate, i only get to see him do it when...say im on my hands and knees and hes reaching between my legs and and hes fingering me. i can see him from between my legs playing with him self. Is this strange? Do you think theres something wrong with me sexually?

Are you complaining because the sex is boring, or that you don't lubricate well. That's two different things. Lack of lubrication can be caused by lots of things, including being bored. Are you on any new medications? Even OTC meds like cough medications or sinus meds? Any of those can affect lubrication.
If there's a problem with the sex being boring, or not satisfying, many times that's just a symptom of other things in the relationship going badly. Problems in the bedroom are often the result of problems outside of the bedroom.
If lubrication is the only problem, then buy some sexual lubricant and use it. If plain old boredom is the problem, try some new things......new positions, new places, etc.
No, there's nothing wrong with you. In the beginning of any relationship, we go through a "honeymoon phase" where the hormone levels are high and everything is hunky-dory. After a while together, we need to be stimulated more or differently since the hormones don't provide that quick arousal like they used to.
Many people actually feel that they've fallen out of love with their partner when they get past that phase but it's just the natural progression of the relationship. It's not solely based on sexual attraction anymore and that's a good thing.
Does your BF believe that masturbation is a private act? Have you told him why you like watching him? Is he against mutual masturbation? Can you fantasize about watching him?
IF your overall relationship is good outside the bedroom, then why not buy some KY or other lube and use the 69 position for foreplay and then move onto other positions once you're sufficiently aroused? That would kill two birds with one stone.
Edited 2/1/2006 5:55 pm ET by katmandoo2001
Hey meg.
There are some things that certains guys feel more private about sexually, just like there are some things that certain women do too. Won't necessarily mean that something is actually "wrong" though. Let him have his private way so long as it doesn't hinder you two sexually. By the sounds of it, the more comfortable he is overall, the more you'll both enjoy.
The ability to naturally lubricate isn't the same among all women. There are plenty of available products to help you if you need it. Wanting to see more of him the way you do isn't strange at all. Its really no different than one partner enjoying the 'sounds' that the other makes, for example.
Sounds like you two are having great times together regardless...good for you two! :)
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