Is there something wrong with me........
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Is there something wrong with me........
| Fri, 07-01-2005 - 7:52am |
I don't like oral sex. I don't like receiving it and not so crazy about giving it either. I mean, I am 34 years old, I'm pretty comfortable with myself and my sexuality, but it just really turns me off. Any advice would be great.

No, there's nothing wrong with you.
Just because SOME people like it, doesn't mean everyone has to like it! If you don't like it, then you don't like it. There's nothing wrong with you. Just because most people like pizza, there's nothing wrong with you if YOU don't like it....that's just YOUR preference, and you're entitled to it.
Having said that, though......you wouldn't be posting here if you weren't curious about your dislike of it. Sometimes it's our upbringing.....we're taught, or it's at least implied that some things are "nasty", and "nice girls" don't do things like that. Sometimes it's religion. Sometimes it's because you had a bad experience.
Some women try giving oral sex, and they gag, and they get self conscious, so they'd rather not do it than try to overcome their inhibitions. Some women think their own genitals are "dirty" and don't want a man down there.
I never had a problem with giving, but my ex had a big hangup about giving it to me. He tried it once....and after 10 seconds, ran gagging and choking towards the bathroom, where he proceeded to brush his teeth, and gargle with mouthwash. Let me tell you, that turned ME off of receiving for many years. It took a particular man who BEGGED me to allow him to do it.....because he loved doing it. I honestly didn't understand how any man could love that, but I finally allowed him to do it. In the beginning, I hated it....I just gritted my teeth, and wished that he'd quit. He knew that.....and he kept telling me how much he loved it, and if I would just relax and enjoy it, I would learn to love it too. He was right. It took a while, but NOW, many years later, it's something that I would never give up, and look forward to always.
If you want to learn to enjoy it, you have to try it with an open mind. Either way, giving or receiving. If you're giving, think about how much HE's enjoying it....and if you're receiving, just relax and realize how good it feels. It won't happen overnight, but if you give yourself a chance, you CAN do it, and you can learn to love it.
But, as I said in the beginning, if you really don't like it......then don't do it, and don't worry about it.