is there something wrong with me?

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Registered: 05-05-2005
is there something wrong with me?
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Thu, 05-05-2005 - 8:43pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 yrs. and only have sex maybe once a week. I have never been a sexual person and am okay with having it only 2 or 3 times a month. He on the other hand thinks we should 5 or 6x's a week. He has threatened to break it off because of this we get along great and never fight unless it's about sex. I don't know what to do, sometimes I will just do it to make him happy. Is there something wrong with me? Is it normal to be like this towards sex?
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Registered: 05-05-2005
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 9:47pm
Everyone has different sex drives! My husband wants it atleast every other day. Once a week or month would be okay with me! Just talk to him about it! I hope that you two can work everything out!
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Registered: 05-05-2005
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 9:50pm

Hi!


There's nothing wrong with you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 10:22am

Sounds like he isn't getting his needs met and is very frustrated by that. I can certainly sympathize because I've always had the higher libido in my marriage.

The only way to solve this common dilemma in relationships is to compromise. You should expect to have sex more than you might like, say 2-3 times a week, and he'll have to expect it less than 5-6 times weekly.

But there is no reason why EACH session must include intercourse either. A hand job or oral pleasure might prevent him from feeling so deprived and you won't feel so put upon to give in.

Find a number that you both can live with and ask him to supplement with masturbation.

No one wants to live with the pressure to do something that doesn't come naturally OR want to feel perpetually deprived and neglected BUT if you want to be a couple, you have to consider the needs of your partner as important as your own!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 1:47pm

What you have to do is find a middle ground where the both of you can be satisfied.


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