Is there something wrong with me?
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| Sun, 07-18-2004 - 10:06pm |
I'm 25 years old and still a virgin. Not that I haven't had ample opportunity to have sex, I just never have.
I can honestly say in every relationship so far, I have never felt that "spark" with someone. I just got out of a 7 month relationship, and I just was never turned on with him in a sexual or intimate manner. I wasn't all for him from the very start.
Then I've been in relationships, quite a few actually, where the guy made it very clear from the get go that all he wanted was sex. I lived with two girls in college who absolutely took things to the extreme and just had sex with any guy at any time. I just didn't like the way they acted.
So maybe it's just that I've been very unlucky with not meeting someone who clicks with me. Then again, maybe it's me. I have no idea!
Can anyone out there help me out a bit? I'm starting to feel borderline freakish.
Thanks!
T

If and when you decide to do it, it'll be your decision, not something you did to "hold on" to the guy, or just because "everyone" else does it.
The right guy will come along eventually......just be patient. He might not be the guy you'll end up with, but it'll be for the right reason, because you WANT to.
Nothing wrong with that and certainly nothing wrong with being a bit choosey and waiting for someone that you feel you can have 'meaningful' sex with.
One of your comments did stand out for me:
>>...quite a few actually, where the guy made it very clear from the get go that all he wanted was sex.<<
I think that most guys your age in this social climate would expect to have sex from the start of the relationship. Maybe that's NOT all they wanted. There will be some that expect sex wtihout attachment but many guys would like immediate sex AND a relationship. Nothing particularly wrong with that either. I don't think that it's something that you should worry too much about. If you want to wait to have sex, then wait. If a guy really likes you he will wait - certainly for a few months anyway.
Don't worry about it. Someone will come along eventually and you'll find that the two of you just click so well that you can't wait to see what he's like in bed.