THINKING ABOUT IT DRIVES ME WILD... ; )

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THINKING ABOUT IT DRIVES ME WILD... ; )
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 7:05pm
Someone needs to shoot me down or something here, I think. My husband and I have been married for three and a half years, I am a student finishing up my second major, my husband works full-time, we have no kids, we stay busy, but not that busy. Anyway, our sex life is nothing special, I can't say that it ever has been or that I ever think that it will be. I am very attracted to my husband and we love each other very much. My husband has a made a new friend (Jimmy) through his work and we have been trying to get Jimmy and my best friend of ten years together. My husband and I both think that they would be good together, they seem to have a lot in common, but are still very different. Anyway, my husband has invited Jimmy over to our home a couple of times and he is a very nice guy, he is a big guy, but seems very mellow, gentle, and polite at the same time. I can't say that he is the most attractive man that I have met, but his personality is very attractive to me. Anyway, this past weekend, my husband, my best friend, Jimmy, and I all met at the lake to grill and have some lazy fun. Anyway, when Jimmy showed up at our home, my husband answered the door and then they came in the kitchen to help me get things together so we could leave. We were loading things in the car and Jimmy was telling me about the previous day at work, but I had my back to him, so I put the bag that I was carrying in the car so that I could turn around and look at him when I was talking to him. So, I turned around and asked him a question and when he started to answer back I noticed that he had his tongue pierced. At that point, I might as well have started drooling, I totally forgot what I had asked him and it was like he was on mute or something. I just know I looked like a kid in a candy store and when I finally caught myself and looked back at him, it was obvious he could tell I had just left the conversation and got lost in my thoughts, so I had to excuse myself. But, anyway Jimmy and my best friend met and they seemed to be interested in each other, I really do hope that it works out for them. It makes me crazy when I notice that a man has his tongue pierced (especially, if they aren't always messing with it, like if I were to just catch a glimpse). So, for the past couple days I just keep thinking about it, I even had dreams about it for the past two nights in a row. I catch myself and with this stupid grin on my face. I have much more self control that it probably sounds like I have, but I just keep thinking "I would love to experience that just once in my life." Just thinking about it makes me really really hot. I feel so bad about thinking about stuff like this and like I have done something really really wrong. I would never ever cheat on my husband, I have asked him before if he has ever thought about getting his tongue pierced and he was really really against doing that. So, ladies I am curious!!! If you have experienced it or have a man with a pierced tongue what is it like??? I just have to know. ;)


Edited 6/1/2004 7:07 pm ET ET by kaybee1181
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 2:32pm
Jeep, the tongue is about 3/4(or more)inch thick, and the earring acts as a stopper; common sense tells me that it's a trap and therefore a breeding ground. I don't think that brushing is going to get what's trapped inside, just as brushing doesn't get trapped debris out from under the gums. It's why we need to floss, brushing alone doesn't work. I want to take your word for it Jeep, but common sense keeps kicking in. ;-)
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 2:42pm
On behalf of Jeep and myself, brushing alone does plenty. The ring is too tight around the hole to let any food get inside. That's why is it were left out for more then an hour, it would close up. There are times I take it out when brushing so that the toothpaste can clean the hole but otherwise, no germs can really "breed" and fester if you have good hygene. I have had my tongue ring for 5 years now and never had a problem. Also, if mouthwash is used without the ring in, it cleans it out as well. No worries here!


Edited 6/2/2004 2:43 pm ET ET by sweetbutterfly36
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 2:49pm
Thanks for the feedback, but masticated food and liquids(particuarly sugary drinks), would probably be trapped and breed. The rings are in loosely enough to be moved around, which would only make sense that food(masticated and liquids) would get trapped. Just because you don't see food in the gums, doesn't mean it's not there. As I said, I'm not an expert, but common sense tells me differently.
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 3:01pm
Free, you are so analytical. LOL Brushing your right is not all that is required. Regular mouthwash works best. The ball picks up plaque, just like the teeth, but brushing it, at least once a week removes all that is built up. Additionally, if you bite the barbell and brush your teeth, your brushing the ball everyday. It is very sterile, and if you are that anal, you can remove it and put it in alcohol. It isn't for you, well cool, it's not for everyone. But, for those that like them, these are simple ways to keep them clean, without devoting an entire new set of cleaning practices. The peircing itself does not trap any food particles, and only speghetti, when you first get it done, interfers with it in any way. After you get used to having it in, nothing really interfers. I love the feel of the cold steel on my skin while she goes down on me. She loves the feeling of it, both hot and cold. It si the same as having an ice cube, or a hot rock in your mouth while pleasing your partner orally. It is a very cool thing to have, and one I am glad I went and did. The pain of getting it done is very minimal, less than ears as I have three in one ear, and two in the other. Those hurt far worse. My nipples on the other hand were very painful to have done. Those I have since removed since my SO did not like them. But oh well. Maybe one day. LOL
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 3:05pm
Your tongue flexes, and that is the only reason the barbell moves. Otherwise your tongue closes around the barbell tightly. Your tongue is made up of to very strong muscles. The strongest in your body besides the heart, I think. They close tightly around the barbell, and as butterfly said if you leave it out for to long, the hole will close, and you have a very hard time getting it back in. I left mine out for about 30 minutes, and had difficulty, but then again I have a 12 gauge barbell. My SO on the other hand left hers out while she had surgery, and had it out for several hours. It went back in without a problem, but it still had to stretch the hole again. Ohwell, different folks, different strokes.

Hey, butterfly, what is your favorite thing about your SO having one?? What do you like him to do with it when he is pleasing you???

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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 3:50pm
Once a week??? You're grossing me out Jeep. Plaque? (**I'm fainting**) ;-) Proves my point though.
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 3:59pm
Just you asking me that makes me grin ear to ear. *blushing intensely** Well, the hoop, which I believed you called a tickler, is my favorite. He doesn't really do anything different then when he takes it out, the man is SO FREAKING TALENTED!!! It's just great over all. I would have to say though that the best feeling was when he had about three ice cubes melt on it in a row, the bar and ball were so cold for so long it felt so good. Probably one of the best O's I've ever had orally! He also does this thing where he sucks on my clit and uses the bottom ball to stimulate me...I dont' know exactly what he does but when he does that, I've reached my point of no return. :)
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:00pm
Ha, ha. To each his own, right?
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:02pm
Good to know someone else enjoys piercings...I have 15 holes myself although 13 of them are in my ears, the other two are my tongue and belly button although JT keeps begging me to get my nipples done. I just don't know...did they hurt that bad? Maybe I won't now, I was starting to change my mind.
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:24pm
But of course! I just like to know that younguns who read these posts(or anyone who is not knowledgeable) see things from all different angles and perspectives, not just those of the masses.