THINKING ABOUT IT DRIVES ME WILD... ; )

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THINKING ABOUT IT DRIVES ME WILD... ; )
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 7:05pm
Someone needs to shoot me down or something here, I think. My husband and I have been married for three and a half years, I am a student finishing up my second major, my husband works full-time, we have no kids, we stay busy, but not that busy. Anyway, our sex life is nothing special, I can't say that it ever has been or that I ever think that it will be. I am very attracted to my husband and we love each other very much. My husband has a made a new friend (Jimmy) through his work and we have been trying to get Jimmy and my best friend of ten years together. My husband and I both think that they would be good together, they seem to have a lot in common, but are still very different. Anyway, my husband has invited Jimmy over to our home a couple of times and he is a very nice guy, he is a big guy, but seems very mellow, gentle, and polite at the same time. I can't say that he is the most attractive man that I have met, but his personality is very attractive to me. Anyway, this past weekend, my husband, my best friend, Jimmy, and I all met at the lake to grill and have some lazy fun. Anyway, when Jimmy showed up at our home, my husband answered the door and then they came in the kitchen to help me get things together so we could leave. We were loading things in the car and Jimmy was telling me about the previous day at work, but I had my back to him, so I put the bag that I was carrying in the car so that I could turn around and look at him when I was talking to him. So, I turned around and asked him a question and when he started to answer back I noticed that he had his tongue pierced. At that point, I might as well have started drooling, I totally forgot what I had asked him and it was like he was on mute or something. I just know I looked like a kid in a candy store and when I finally caught myself and looked back at him, it was obvious he could tell I had just left the conversation and got lost in my thoughts, so I had to excuse myself. But, anyway Jimmy and my best friend met and they seemed to be interested in each other, I really do hope that it works out for them. It makes me crazy when I notice that a man has his tongue pierced (especially, if they aren't always messing with it, like if I were to just catch a glimpse). So, for the past couple days I just keep thinking about it, I even had dreams about it for the past two nights in a row. I catch myself and with this stupid grin on my face. I have much more self control that it probably sounds like I have, but I just keep thinking "I would love to experience that just once in my life." Just thinking about it makes me really really hot. I feel so bad about thinking about stuff like this and like I have done something really really wrong. I would never ever cheat on my husband, I have asked him before if he has ever thought about getting his tongue pierced and he was really really against doing that. So, ladies I am curious!!! If you have experienced it or have a man with a pierced tongue what is it like??? I just have to know. ;)


Edited 6/1/2004 7:07 pm ET ET by kaybee1181

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 4:35pm
And I like reading other's views because I am a very open minded person and can 9 times out of 10 see the way they see it. Actually, for a long time I had your view of the tongue piercing but eventually, curiousity killed the cat and I got it done. Can't say I regret it one bit though!
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Registered: 10-09-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 5:25pm
...and I don't regret my decision NOT to do it either. AND...simply because someone chooses not to do something doesn't make them close minded.
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Wed, 06-02-2004 - 7:29pm
Thank you guys for your responses. I am ever so curious. I have wanted to do something like that, but the pain swelling, and possiblities of infection are what keep me from having it. But a girl can dream, and oh how she does. LOL!!! ;) Oh, I have been giving this a little extra thought and Tish showed a bit of concern about my saying that my husband's and my sex life is nothing special. He doesn't really ever show any want or need to be with me and when we do have sex he doesn't ever do anything just for me, it feels like it is just sex. It is pretty boring. I know that the last time we had sex was about 2 weeks ago or so, to be honest, I can't remember anything about it. It is generally about every three weeks or so between times we have sex. The rest of the time, I just take care of myself and he takes care of himself, I am sure, but don't really know. We have been to couseling about this and we have taked about this so many times I don't even want to talk about it any more. I don't feel that I do things right and he has said that he will guide me and it has been 3 and a half years and I am still waiting for him to show me some things he would like, or at least guide me. That still hasn't happened and to be honest, I have kinda given up on that, if I don't do something the way that he would like and he isn't going to show me, then there is no reason in continuing to do things that don't work. I have written out things that I really like for him to do and he rarely does those, maybe twice a year. Foreplay, which really really helps get me in the mood doesn't really happen and if we do engage in foreplay it is for a very short period of time, if it lasts longer than he would like he gets frustrated and stars sighing and he has started laughing at me before he said, "I kiss too much." So, things are fairly boring. I do however enjoy fantasizing about things sometimes. There are a lot of times that I fantasize about being with a man for one night, no strings attached and just enjoying, but I am not that kind of person and I am not a cheater. Thus, for now I will just enjoy my fantasies. This has been fun, I am enjoying everyone's feedback too. I have always been curious. I guess I generally think that men with tongue piercings are men who are very oral and I must say I am a very oral person myself who greatly enjoys giving and recieving. Since I do enjoy it so much, I guess I generally think men with tongue piercings would like giving and that is something I don't recieve that often. Also, I am 23 years old, so my sex drive is definitely more than once every three weeks and so I think that men with tongue piecings would be fairly interested in sex since they would do something that would possibly cause a little pain just for their partner. I know this isn't the only reason, but fantasizing is really the only way I get my kicks and I have been in a much better mood lately just having something that I think would be a lot of fun to fantasize about, so I prefer to just keep thinking this way. ;)
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 9:51am
Well my dear, as a man with a ring, I would have to say that most men who have them, have them for the same reason. All the ones I know of that have them done do. Oral sex. I love to give. I love to give so much that I will do that, and only that on occasion. There was a time when I could not have entercourse at all, nor could I recieve, so for three weeks I got a lot of practice. LOL If I do not get it for a while, I actually start to feel a hunger, a hunger that does not go away, until I feel the lips meeting mine. So, to make this short, I really do love to give, and it makes me feel good, simply by doing that alone!!!!!
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 9:58am
I never have been with a man with his tongue pierced, but I have a friend with his done and he said it drives his girl wirld and he has a vibrating stud he uses sometimes.

I have my tongue pierced and DH loves it. He tells everyone that asks that it's great. His co-workers have even approached me to tell me how he brags about it. And he's the BOSS there at the office! That's fine. It's a car dealership full of guys--mostly single and they are living vicariously thru him. They know he's getting it because they've partied with us and know I'm a wild thing.

I'm not sure if your DH will ever pierce his tongue, but just give him a nudge and if he refuses, let it alone. But maybe if he sees it's something you REALLY would like, he might think about it. Just remember...you can't have any of that tongue for 6 weeks. It has to heal.

Melissa

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 10:08am
Oh, I know that. I am sorry if I implied that you were close minded. I didn't mean it that way at all. Just saying that I am very open minded and can see things from just about everyone's view-point.
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