For those who love porn....question.....

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For those who love porn....question.....
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 10:32am
Hi..if REALLY love watching porn, and do so often...

Say for about 2-3 weeks you were not exposed to porn at all. No internet, magazines, video, etc. Would your sex drive diminish? Would you still want sex as much? Would you want more sex? Does porn enhance or take away from the sex that you have with your partner?

VERY VERY curious. Doing sort of an experiment here...

Please be honest

Thanks!

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:27am
My sex drive wouldn't and doesn't diminish. It just takes me a little longer to get off when masturbating. I have a great sex life with JT and although we both know each other often looks at porn while masturbating, we don't care too much. It is a personal release for the both of us and we regularly take it away for periods of time to focus only on each other and our own pleasures. I guess whenever I look at porn again and again and again while masturbating, I fall into a routine. Our sex life has no routine and I don't want *my* mastubation time to ahve a routine either. Doing this, it doesn't fall into one. I find JT waits for me more often when he doesn't have movies or magazines to look at but it doesn't bother me. If I am giving him a hand job or going down on him, he usually likes for me to be naked or at least I am topless. He is a guy that is extremely visual and cannot reach orgasm unless he has some ankedness in front of him. Therefore for him, it leads to more sex with me. I am just forced to use more imagination. ;)
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 8:55pm
I wouldn't say that I love porn, but I do use it, sometimes with my partner.

>>Would your sex drive diminish?<<

No. Probably it would increase. I usually use porn to masturbate to. Without the porn it takes longer for me to reach orgasm. Therefore I wouldn't masturbate as often. I would walk around feeling hornier.

>>Would you still want sex as much? Would you want more sex?<<

See above. Would probably want sex more because I wasn't masturbating as much. I must say that both me and my partner are happy with the freqency of sex and neither of us feel that my masturbating negatively impacts on our sex life.

>>Does porn enhance or take away from the sex <<

If anything, I would say that it enhances somewhat. It's a useful tool occasionally that can jump start our arousal. But we don't use it often.

It helps to provide a useful outlet for my libido if my partner isn't in the same mood. It gets me thinking about sex in general and provides some ideas and thoughts for when I'm with my partner.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 12:05am
This is one of those questions, that if you ask 100 different people, you'll get 100 different answers. Some people use porn as a crutch, no doubt, but many look at it as pure enjoyment, and it has nothing to do with their "sex drive".

If you have a particular person in mind, then your best bet would be to ASK that person how they feel it would affect them. It depends on why they look at porn, if they just enjoy it, or if they're addicted to it.

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 1:51pm
>>Would your sex drive diminish?<<

westridge: No. Probably it would increase. I usually use porn to masturbate to. Without the porn it takes longer for me to reach orgasm. Therefore I wouldn't masturbate as often. I would walk around feeling hornier.

do you mean to say that if you don't look at porn while masturbating you cannot orgasm? do you ever visualize your so(if you have one)?



>>Does porn enhance or take away from the sex <<

westridge: If anything, I would say that it enhances somewhat. It's a useful tool occasionally that can jump start our arousal. But we don't use it often.

It helps to provide a useful outlet for my libido if my partner isn't in the same mood. It gets me thinking about sex in general and provides some ideas and thoughts for when I'm with my partner.

do you not think about sex and ideas and thoughts of for your partner if porn wasn't viewed?





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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 4:48pm
If it takes someone longer to reach orgasm with their partner when they haven't viewed porn in awhile, theres a simple reason for that, its called an "addiction". I'm not saying porn is bad for people to view sometimes but theres been proven fact that people that view it alot, it changes the chemicals in the brain and it tells the mind and body that the human flesh isn't as good as the viewing or pictures, movies etc. Therefore for some people thats why it may take longer to reach an orgasm with their partner. The mind and body are used to the porn being their "quicker" release. I know this to be true because I am married to one. Before he ever started viewing it on a regular basis things were fine, then when he did, the sex changed and it took him longer with me because he was used to a quick fix through the porn. However it may be different for different people.
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 9:18pm
>>theres been proven fact that people that view it alot, it changes the chemicals in the brain and it tells the mind and body that the human flesh isn't as good as the viewing or pictures, movies etc.<<

Is there a link online, or a study name that you can point me to?

Leticia

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:28pm
Hi yarnlover, I just typed in porn and the effects in the search and it will bring you to alot of different sites on the topic. One site I remember going to was www.firesofdarkness.com. I remember looking at right many to see if alot of them say about the same thing, and most of them did.


Hugs to you!

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:49pm
Thanks :o)
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 2:00pm
So far, interesting reading. I hadn't heard about these studies.

Leticia

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 11:31pm
>>Would your sex drive diminish?<<

>>>>westridge: No. Probably it would increase. I usually use porn to masturbate to. Without the porn it takes longer for me to reach orgasm. Therefore I wouldn't masturbate as often. I would walk around feeling hornier.

do you mean to say that if you don't look at porn while masturbating you cannot orgasm?<<<<<

No. I can orgasm quite easily and happily without porn. I use porn for EXTRA stimulation.

Without porn I am using my hand and my brain to stimulate myself. With porn I am using my hand, my brain and my eyes (and ears if it's a movie)to stimulate myself. Extra stimulation equals a faster orgasm.

>>>>>>do you ever visualize your so(if you have one)? <<<<<<<

Yes. Frequently. Even when using porn. I can't speak for any other guys but when I do use porn there is some fantasy in there where I can see the image presented by the porn and I somehow fit my partner partially or completely into the same fantasy as well. Hard to explain. I suppose that I am imagining my partner doing/receiving the things that I see in the porn.

>>>>>>>do you not think about sex and ideas and thoughts of for your partner if porn wasn't viewed?<<<<<

Of course I do! Just because porn can provide some ideas and fire my imagination doesn't mean that it is the ONLY thing that does. I have a healthy imagination without porn and the majority of my ideas and thoughts about sex have nothing to do with porn.

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