For those who love porn....question.....
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For those who love porn....question.....
| Thu, 07-08-2004 - 10:32am |
Hi..if REALLY love watching porn, and do so often...
Say for about 2-3 weeks you were not exposed to porn at all. No internet, magazines, video, etc. Would your sex drive diminish? Would you still want sex as much? Would you want more sex? Does porn enhance or take away from the sex that you have with your partner?
VERY VERY curious. Doing sort of an experiment here...
Please be honest
Thanks!

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Rubbish. If anything, it's called desensitisation. Not 'addiction'.
>>>Therefore for some people thats why it may take longer to reach an orgasm with their partner. The mind and body are used to the porn being their "quicker" release. <<<
Again, rubbish. A guy can concentrate on himself and apply a very specific stimulation with his hand and pick a piece of porn that he finds very stimulating and orgasm very quickly. He may react slower with a partner because he is not getting such specific and intense stimulation through most of his senses.
This frequently happens without ANY porn being involved. Ask any guy why he masturbates. I bet that most guys can orgasm a lot faster masturbating than they can with a partner.
>>>>do you mean to say that if you don't look at porn while masturbating you cannot orgasm?<<<<<
westridge: No. I can orgasm quite easily and happily without porn.
westridge: I use porn for EXTRA stimulation.
Without porn I am using my hand and my brain to stimulate myself. With porn I am using my hand, my brain and my eyes (and ears if it's a movie)to stimulate myself. Extra stimulation equals a faster orgasm.
those two statements conflict with one another. you first state(which was why i questioned you to begin with) that it takes you longer so you wouldn't masturbate as often. which indicated to me that if you would rather not, then the porn was the missing link.
are the images you visualize the same as seeing, only within the brain? if you look at a pic, you don't have to use your brain at all(except to process it). without a pic, you'd have to conjure up an image, but it's still **seeing** it. to correct your statement above...(same result, different organ)
Without porn I am using my hand and my brain to stimulate myself. With porn I am using my hand(i removed brain) and my eyes (and ears if it's a movie)to stimulate myself. Extra stimulation equals a faster orgasm.
again, i only posted to you because you sounded as though you couldn't(and even chose not to) masturbate without porn(extra stimulation). that it wasn't worth doing it with normal stimulation.
Edited 7/15/2004 10:52 am ET ET by mona_lisa_smile
Rubbish. If anything, it's called desensitisation. Not 'addiction'.
isn't desensitization the same as immunity to a drug would be only your body becomes immune to the drug and needs a much stronger one?
>>>Therefore for some people thats why it may take longer to reach an orgasm with their partner. The mind and body are used to the porn being their "quicker" release. <<<
westridge: Again, rubbish. A guy can concentrate on himself and apply a very specific stimulation with his hand and pick a piece of porn that he finds very stimulating and orgasm very quickly.
westridge: He may react slower with a partner because he is not getting such specific and intense stimulation through most of his senses.
the original point was a guy who could orgasm during partner sex with porn and who later couldnt without. wouldn't you then train yourself or self-dicipline to make yourself more responsive to your partner? what senses are you missing when with a partner? sight, sound, touch, taste, smell? it would make more sense to me that the porn would be lacking in sensory stimulation.
westridge: This frequently happens without ANY porn being involved. Ask any guy why he masturbates. I bet that most guys can orgasm a lot faster masturbating than they can with a partner.
is the goal to orgasm faster with a partner or enjoy sex? i think that if my so had a delayed orgasm during sex(after he gave up porn) i'd see that as a problem. and if he also had no problem with porn and masturbation, i would probably ask him to refrain from masturbating, and refrain from all porn use until we fix the problem...because people can get used to one kind of stimulation. porn can imbed itself in your brain with images permanently etched(which are used during sex). i'd want my partner to come down to earth(so-to-speak) because i would view it as their solo sex life is interfering with our partner sex life. i'd wonder why he had little problem orgasming during sex when using porn as opposed to not. i often wonder if men constantly view porn not only to mb but to be used during partner sex to help them orgasm. nothing wrong with fantasy occasionally, but i'd want my so to be turned on by real sex using all of his senses.
if my so can't orgasm during sex, i'd first look at his mb habit, and yes, i'd ask him to stop until he came back to the real world.
Edited 7/15/2004 11:38 am ET ET by mona_lisa_smile
this was not about mb, but came about when a poster referenced a man who could not orgasm when not viewing porn prior to partner sex, while he can when he had. westridge was pointing out that the stimulation was different and that porn had nothing to do with it.
Edited 7/15/2004 10:42 am ET ET by mona_lisa_smile
I think what Westie is trying to say here is not that his senses are dulled when having sex with his partner, just that when mastubating and focusing on one aspect of the porn and certain aspects of his body, he can react faster. Since he is not using his hand to specifically stimulate himslef during sex, the sensation is different, not necessarily any less, so that is why it takes him longer to orgasm and I totally agree. We each know exactly what gets us off in the fastest way. Sex feels totally different and doesn't stimulate us in the same way. The intensity is still there, very much so, but in a totally different way that only our partner can give us. Just like mastubation is a feeling we can only give ourselves.
although originally i questioned him about mb and what i thought was his inability or wanton to mb sans porn- same principle as above.
Edited 7/15/2004 12:05 pm ET ET by mona_lisa_smile
Specifically regarding the use of porn during _masturbation_: When I use porn I find that I can often orgasm faster and more enjoyably than when I do not use porn.
Sometimes I will not masturbate if there is no porn available. I stress that this is SOMETIMES and is usually when I felt like a "quickie". A quick, fast orgasm that is done pretty much for enjoyment only; not really to release sexual tension as such. Then I use the porn to boost the low level of arousal I have at that time. ie. sometimes after days of regular sex I can still feel mildly horney, but not deperately so, and the porn boosts my arousal.
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