For those who prefer size, why?

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For those who prefer size, why?
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Thu, 06-02-2005 - 2:51pm
For those women who prefer large male members, why, or what, specifically makes them more enjoyable? Yes, size has been discussed ad nauseaum, but I was wondering what different people find attractive about large members (not the biggest you've had, or why samller ones are bad).

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 5:37pm

rain dancer,

If this is too personal a question say so and I apoligise beforehand. If you are willing to answer---Does a long one and/or thick one bring different and/or louder vocals from you during intercourse than average and small sizes? This is topic discussed from time to time at a forum I belong to, but it only has a few female members.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 6:32pm

I've had large(both girth and length) and average and **I** can't say there's any actual difference(other than hitting bottom)in the feel. The vagina is a collapsed potential space and very ELASTIC...therefore anything inserted into it, it will HUG snuggly. In other words, after it's stretched to FORM FIT whatever is inserted into it, it feels the same. Whether it's average length and width or longer(as long as it doesn't hit the cervix) and very girthy. I haven't had small, but DH's finger is probably the size of a small thin penis and it still feels good when inserted(when fully aroused). I attribute it to the amazing feat of the one-size-fits-all vagina to accommodate just about anything(not length of course)....whatever the size. Think of water displacement. Imagine you have a bowl of warm water in front of you. You stick your finger in it and you can feel the warmth and the wetness of the water. Now stick your arm in and you feel the same exact thing. Why? Because the water surrounds the small object and the large object in the exact same manner. Same with the vagina. So the vagina can't really decipher between thin, thick or thicker, or average or long--at least mine can't. For me, if I'm very aroused and engorged, anything from 4"(finger) to 8" inches and any girth will feel THE SAME once it's been inserted into the vagina and the vagina adjusts to accommodate it.




Edited 7/6/2005 7:01 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Wed, 07-06-2005 - 6:51pm

I was speaking for myself though. I don't experience pleasure from that, even at the height of arousal. My DH bottoms out and I feel extreme pressure...much like childbirth.
And we've had other posters who described feeling crampy or achy after deep penetration. Some women enjoy it and some of us don't.




Edited 7/7/2005 2:15 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 12-24-2003
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 1:45am

>>At a forum I'm from, we study all of the vagina and even beyond. <<

Damn! I thought your name looked familiar.

This place can be a great compliment to that other board, don't you think?

Regarding the CDS, I got a slightly different perspective here:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlimproveyou/?msg=1536.43

Enjoy,
muttley

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 9:01am


Hey muttley.

Yeah, in just a few posts I've already encountered the size doesn't matter squad-Tish, Kat, and greentea. LOL

They are good defenders of it. I did point out to Tish that a nail she said was hit squarely on the head was just a glancing blow, and I think she had to concede that.
I've gone round and round witn Kst, she won't back down. LOL

I think I may have won a round with greentea, as she never did respond back to my very logical post # 70 in the Penis! thread. (looks over shoulder for greentea now).

I started an anal vs penis size poll, but so far only 5 votes.

I don't intend to post here often, but had read things the squad have been saying, and decided to show them the error of their ways. Ha Ha.

Seriously though, I intend to mainly just hang around (pun intended) our other forum, and reach monsterous porportions. Opps, did I just say that.

This is a good forum, with good ladies, and guys, here.

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Thu, 07-07-2005 - 9:11am

Previous post I wrote "I've gone round and round with Kst. She won't back down."

Kst = Kat.

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Registered: 12-24-2003
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 9:45am

I think we may be throwing a few of them off because, for some sadistically (or masochistically?) strange reason, we want our women to be the type where size matters.

Penis is to men and our psyche as weight/body image is to women and their psyche.

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Thu, 07-07-2005 - 11:24am

I enjoy your posts, Been There, but there's nothing for me to "back down" from! LOL! These are my true feelings and opinions about the subject.

But of course, I'm merely relating my OWN personal experiences (and what do I know, right?) so that shouldn't prevent you from informing me of my own biological functions!

Please guys, continue to enlighten us. LOL!

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 2:52pm

katmandoo,

Ok, a couple of things.

One thing I keep seeing posted by folks is "...too long and hitting the cervix...".

The cervix is not at the end of the vagina. It usually doesn't require especially long length to reach it. Anyway, after about 20 minutes of arousal (good foreplay can provide this), the cervix will tilt mostly out of the way. It can still be hit, but is much more difficult to do so then. Once it's tilted out of the way, a guy of long length can miss it just as easily as a shorter guy. Angle wrong, and it can still get hit.

Another thing worth noting, the fornix is located inside the vagina, but not the cds is not. The cds is a pouch on the other side of the bottom vagina wall. She must be elasticated and a guy must be long enough to be able to push that bottom vagina wall well into the cds to stimulate it. The fornix and the cds are hot topics to help explain why some women go bezerk with ecstacy when a thick and long long guy is in them and uses it well. Unfortunately, even at the forum I mainly visit, the fornix and the cds actualy get confused for each other, and the cds gets confused as being inside the vagina, which it's not. So by saying that the clitoris is a command center for all female stimulation, during intercourse, isn't correct, since the cds doesn't take orders from the clitoris.

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Thu, 07-07-2005 - 4:29pm

And been there, I'll say it again...until you own a vagina and clitoris, then you as a man can't tell me what I experience. Just as I would never presume to tell you how your penis functions for you. Sorry, but only the OWNER of an organ can claim to be an expert on their own experience.

When my DH bottoms out and hits my cervix, it is painful. When he bumps it repeatedly, it can cause me to become crampy and sore. Definitely NOT pleasurable.

No matter what you've read or believe as a man...you still have no clue what penetration feels like for the individual woman.

Listen, it's great that you're taking the time to educate yourself about female biology and sexuality, which surely benefits both you and your partner. Just don't forget that we're all individuals. Female sexual response is so much more complicated than just place "organ A into slot B for full stimulation." I know men desperately WANT it to be that simple but it isn't.

And it's important to remember that our sexual response will be the result of many factors, not just our particular physicality.




Edited 7/7/2005 6:02 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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