Thoughts of Sex with Others

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Thoughts of Sex with Others
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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:28pm

For those in LTR do you continue to have urges to have sex with other people? If yes, are you sexually satisfied in your relationship.

When I was younger I pretty much would only have eyes for whoever I was dating. But now in my mid-30s it no longer works this way. I love my guy, but find my sexual thoughts are not very loyal. I'm wondering if it's the 'in your prime' hormones pumping.

Any thoughts?

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Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 4:05pm
Maybe you have a slight fear of commitment or monogamy? Didn't you say that you were typically attracted to bad boys at one time....which would go hand in hand with that.
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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 6:48pm
i think you are right. i don't tend to get attached very easily and when i do it tends to be to someone that it makes no sense for me to be with. and here i am, finally, in a relationship with real potential. i guess i just need to figure out how to inject the level of excitement i need without messing it up.
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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 7:01pm

I don't there's any harm in fantasizing about other men but when it requires that in order to be satisfied with your guy, then it could lead to problems. Have you tried purposely fantasizing about HIM?

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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 12:26am
not purposefully. i usually just let the fantasies go whereever they will. but that might be a good idea. i will give it a try. thanks.

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