Thoughts on your SO getting a Massage

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Thoughts on your SO getting a Massage
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Mon, 11-05-2007 - 8:27pm

Another iVillage video topic that we can add comments to!

Is It OK for Your Significant Other to Get a Massage?
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Registered: 02-28-2006
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 8:39pm
C&P'ing my post from the thread on the same subject on MHM...

DW and I have both had professional massages done, and neither of us has a problem with each other doing so. DW has always expressed a preference for a female masseuse but I wouldn't really care if she wanted to receive a massage from a man -- I know who she's going home with once she's all nice and relaxed. I've received massages from both men and women and DW has no problem with that. The last time I received a massage from a woman when DW wasn't there with me was on a bike trip in the Pacific NW that DS and I took a couple of summers ago, and DW knew that I was getting the massage for no other reason than that I'd logged 85 miles on the bike that day, over a couple of mountains, and my quads were screaming from the abuse. We both know that our marriage is rock solid, we trust each other completely, and there's no issue.






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Registered: 07-15-2007
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 8:50pm

I couldn't get through a full minute of that video.


Blondie is full of herself. (among other things)


Of course a husband or wife or SO can get a massage. It's not like you're boinking the masseusse. Good grief.


When I went to Mexico with DW, we went to a spot on Cozumel called Carlos & Charley's. Some of you probably know it. Well the waiter - a 20 something local grabbed my wife (without asking) and took her for a spin on the dance floor.


Did I really care? Nope. Because she was good with it. And I only cared to the extent that I wanted to keep them in my view the whole time.


And fwiw - at the point the waiter took her for a sping - half the staff did the same thing. It's just a Carlos & Charley's thing.


And if DW wanted a massage from a man - that's her call.


But God help him if he tried something inappropriate with her. She'd beat him senseless.


-lg

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Mon, 11-05-2007 - 9:48pm

Glad you asked. Here's my story.


Both DW and I have had the same massage therapist over the years (haven't had one since she moved a couple of years ago). Each time (she) was a friend of DW. When I had one done , I was greatly aroused, and I apologized. It had to be the forehead rub, but it was all good. She saod no apology was needed, and it was a normal thing. I then told her it got me ready for later (maybe I shouldn't have), and she said my wife could thank her later. We did have great sex later, but I felt guilty and told my wife I had been aroused during the massage. She was disappointed. I don't think I should have said anything.


The next time it happened again. I again apologized to the therapist, and she again said it was no big deal. I didn't tell DW. This time, however, it felt great to be aroused, and I masturbated in the bathroom afterwards so DW wouldn't know. Ironically, the therapist (who was more on the conservative side), stopped doing this side business. I wonder if it was me.


Years later, we have another therapist. This happened again, but I said nothing to the therapist or my wife. She later moved, so that was the end of that.


So I don't know if it's good or not, but I find my body responds like that, and I worried I might cum on the table if I was lying on my stomach. But lying on my back....

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 11-06-2007 - 7:42am
Hubby and I have never had professional massages, but we would like to get one together (at a resort) someday. I don't think that would stop either of us from getting one prior to that time if the opportunity presented itself. Neither of us is much into getting pampered (other than from each other, lol), but we wouldn't have a problem with the sex of the masseuse if we had that chance to be pampered.






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Registered: 02-17-2007
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 8:51pm

I can't believe that woman!

 

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 8:51pm
LOL I totally agree with you!

 

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Registered: 09-15-2004
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 4:46pm

DH & I have a person visit us frequently. It's mostly weekdays and rarely when he's home.


We had a asian woman who was our regular. Then she started bringing someone from her family over (he had moved to the country recently). DH had no problem with him giving me a massage.


We have had our moments and DH is not the 'inquiring' type.

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Registered: 03-15-2006
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 7:38pm
This inquiring mind would like to hear more about your "moments".

 Rich, good to the last drop

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Registered: 11-06-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 12:09am

Seriously? Soooo very NOT that big a deal.

SO and I get massages a lot if we can help it-- either as a pair in the "couples suites" some places have, or on our own. While I love getting couples massages, it doesn't (and shouldn't) bother me at all that SO gets them on his own or has a female masseuse. He actually will only have a female do it (though we've not run into it yet, he's expressed a strong preference!).

The first time we had one together, the masseuses were great, and said it well-- a massage is NOT a sexual thing in and of itself. It may stimulate nerves or whatnot, but nothing a masseuse does should be interpreted as sexual. 'Tis not their job ;).

Anyway. That's my two cents.

(PS- also curious about the aforementioned "moments"!)

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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 1:28am

Sheesh! I couldn't handle that video. I just wanted to slap one of them; No, both of them.

A PROFESSIONAL massage is just that. You're not bonking the masseuse and the masseuse isn't there to be bonked. What's the problem??

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