Thoughts on your SO getting a Massage
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Thoughts on your SO getting a Massage
| Mon, 11-05-2007 - 8:27pm |
Another iVillage video topic that we can add comments to!
Is It OK for Your Significant Other to Get a Massage?
http://video.ivillage.com/player/?id=179060



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DW and I have both had professional massages done, and neither of us has a problem with each other doing so. DW has always expressed a preference for a female masseuse but I wouldn't really care if she wanted to receive a massage from a man -- I know who she's going home with once she's all nice and relaxed. I've received massages from both men and women and DW has no problem with that. The last time I received a massage from a woman when DW wasn't there with me was on a bike trip in the Pacific NW that DS and I took a couple of summers ago, and DW knew that I was getting the massage for no other reason than that I'd logged 85 miles on the bike that day, over a couple of mountains, and my quads were screaming from the abuse. We both know that our marriage is rock solid, we trust each other completely, and there's no issue.
I couldn't get through a full minute of that video.
Blondie is full of herself. (among other things)
Of course a husband or wife or SO can get a massage. It's not like you're boinking the masseusse. Good grief.
When I went to Mexico with DW, we went to a spot on Cozumel called Carlos & Charley's. Some of you probably know it. Well the waiter - a 20 something local grabbed my wife (without asking) and took her for a spin on the dance floor.
Did I really care? Nope. Because she was good with it. And I only cared to the extent that I wanted to keep them in my view the whole time.
And fwiw - at the point the waiter took her for a sping - half the staff did the same thing. It's just a Carlos & Charley's thing.
And if DW wanted a massage from a man - that's her call.
But God help him if he tried something inappropriate with her. She'd beat him senseless.
-lg
Glad you asked. Here's my story.
Both DW and I have had the same massage therapist over the years (haven't had one since she moved a couple of years ago). Each time (she) was a friend of DW. When I had one done , I was greatly aroused, and I apologized. It had to be the forehead rub, but it was all good. She saod no apology was needed, and it was a normal thing. I then told her it got me ready for later (maybe I shouldn't have), and she said my wife could thank her later. We did have great sex later, but I felt guilty and told my wife I had been aroused during the massage. She was disappointed. I don't think I should have said anything.
The next time it happened again. I again apologized to the therapist, and she again said it was no big deal. I didn't tell DW. This time, however, it felt great to be aroused, and I masturbated in the bathroom afterwards so DW wouldn't know. Ironically, the therapist (who was more on the conservative side), stopped doing this side business. I wonder if it was me.
Years later, we have another therapist. This happened again, but I said nothing to the therapist or my wife. She later moved, so that was the end of that.
So I don't know if it's good or not, but I find my body responds like that, and I worried I might cum on the table if I was lying on my stomach. But lying on my back....
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I can't believe that woman!
DH & I have a person visit us frequently. It's mostly weekdays and rarely when he's home.
We had a asian woman who was our regular. Then she started bringing someone from her family over (he had moved to the country recently). DH had no problem with him giving me a massage.
We have had our moments and DH is not the 'inquiring' type.
Rich, good to the last drop
Seriously? Soooo very NOT that big a deal.
SO and I get massages a lot if we can help it-- either as a pair in the "couples suites" some places have, or on our own. While I love getting couples massages, it doesn't (and shouldn't) bother me at all that SO gets them on his own or has a female masseuse. He actually will only have a female do it (though we've not run into it yet, he's expressed a strong preference!).
The first time we had one together, the masseuses were great, and said it well-- a massage is NOT a sexual thing in and of itself. It may stimulate nerves or whatnot, but nothing a masseuse does should be interpreted as sexual. 'Tis not their job ;).
Anyway. That's my two cents.
(PS- also curious about the aforementioned "moments"!)
Sheesh! I couldn't handle that video. I just wanted to slap one of them; No, both of them.
A PROFESSIONAL massage is just that. You're not bonking the masseuse and the masseuse isn't there to be bonked. What's the problem??
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