Threesome ?

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Threesome ?
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Fri, 10-29-2004 - 7:36am
Is it true that most men would ACTUALLY engage in a threesome if offered(whether or not they're in a relationship), or is this simply a myth? I know that not ALL men would, but it seems from what I've read on these boards and what men in real life have expressed, it may be true. Assuming you were single, and/or your partner agreed to it, and STD's were screened for, would most men? How about the women?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 10-29-2004 - 7:56am

I don't think most men *would*, but I do think most men fantasize about it.


My bf fantasizes about it ... but says "It's great in fantasy, but in reality? Not so much." and wouldn't do it in reality. He loves the idea sexually, but in reality there's too much more involved. Sex isn't about just sex; its about love and passion and a whole host of other emotions.



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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 10-29-2004 - 8:26am
It's a VERY common fantasy among men.....if I was trying to guess at a man's ultimate fantasy, it would be my first guess. But would they actually do it if it came to the crunch? I don't know. I'm guessing that somewhere between 40-60% would attempt it.

Could be a good question for the "guy talk" board.

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Fri, 10-29-2004 - 12:11pm
I think many men THINK they would but if that were true, then why haven't more men had the experience? And having the fantasy is one thing, reality is quite another. Remember, it used to be believed that men wanted sex all the time, too. And we know that men's libidos are as varied and individual as women's are.

I can only speak for myself and my DH regarding threesomes though. Neither of us would be interested in the experience, after discussing the topic many times, over many years.

And even when I was single, the thought or desire never entered my mind. Sex is too personal for me.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 10-29-2004 - 1:08pm
I would have absolutly no interest in a threesome and when I asked Dh he said he would never engage in one and said it's not even a fantasy of his.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Fri, 10-29-2004 - 7:03pm
I know that it is one of my DH's ultimate fantasies, lol. But we wouldn't actually do it. I would venture to say that if he were single and had a GF who was interested, he might very well try it. But he wouldn't with his wife (me). And not just because I'm not interested in trying it, I think he feels differently about doing something like that with a casual partner and doing it with a spouse.
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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 1:10pm
Hi Ladies

This is something that I have had come up in conversation, with a few of my S/Os through the years. I can say all my life it has been a fantasy. Twenty years ago it was a subject of a conversation with my SO. She was an opened mined person and her girlfriend (also married) at that time brought up the conversation with her about a threesome.

Her girlfriend asked if she thought I would be interested in a threesome. Because her husband had tolled her that he had a fantasy about having one.

She proposed that she would come to our house, so the two of them could seduce me

and have a threesome, in return my wife would do the same for her husband.

My honey and I had a conversation about the suggestion. After thinking about it, I realized it was my fantasy and not hers. She would do it for me, but she was not into it. I also realized I did not want to share her with another man I would be jealous. It was not that important to me, and would be better off as a fantasy.

A threesome is something you really have to consider all sides. Will you really be willing to watch your S/O please another woman? Will the little green-eyed monster come up and bite you in the end? Are you very secure and will not be jealous? What if the third party moves on you. Is that one of your fantasy's?

Look at all sides go with what you feel, and not what you think your partner feels

If it is something your thinking about have a truthful conversation about it and express your feelings.

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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 9:03pm
As the other posters are saying, the reality is certainly different from the fantasy.

Years ago, I had one with an old g/f and her best friend at their suggestion. It had never been my 'ultimate' fantasy but had always sound like fun so I was game to try. While it was a bit awkward and not as erotic as I had thought it would be it was OK. Until my g/f at the time decided she couldn't handle it and burst into tears. She had been OK until I had ejeculated in her friend - and that was something that she just couldn't handle.

I think that many guys would try it the first time. It's whether or not they would try it a second time that would be the interesting question.

I probably try it again if my partner wanted, but it would depend totally on discussing it with my partner and working through feelings and emotions and having some ground rules before even considering it seriously.

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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 6:15pm

Hi I.L.


For me, NO WAY would I want to do a 3-some.

 

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:53am
All depends on the person. It's the top fantasy for most men and lots of women. But to actually go through with it, is another matter.
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 12:16pm
I was curious, because it seemed that collectively from all of the boards I lurk on, that males are more likely to want to make this fantasy a reality and have done so and would do it again. According to the special that was on ABC last week, men are twice as likely to engage in a threesome than women are.

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