Threesome

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Registered: 06-01-2004
Threesome
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Tue, 06-01-2004 - 11:05am
Hubby and I had a threesome(our fourth) with a man a month ago who was incredible in bed, and who was well equipped. Unlike all of the other threesomes(two were FMF), he is a man that my husband works with. We socialize with him often, and he's unattached(has been for almost two years), and he's sexy as all hell! I find myself thinking and fantasizing about him all of the time, wanting to have more sex with him, and I believe that I'm emotionally involved to some extent. He was over yesterday for the holiday, and at one point he looked at me and said we have to "get together" real soon, and then he winked. Has anyone else ever gotten so attached over the third-person in a threesome? If so, how did you proceed?

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 4:59pm
MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!!
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:02pm
It sounds more like your hubby doesn't satisfy you much and that's the reason for the threesomes. I think your tune would change if you two were to have a threesome with other women. And say one of those women was spending some time at your house catching your hubby's eye and saying "we need to get together real soon". I'm not completely against threesomes, but for me, it was only an experimentation. I don't want to do it again. My hubby is more than I can handle and I'm glad I only want and crave him.
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Registered: 06-01-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:03pm
I only asked because I was taken back at how exciting it is(he was only my second male other than hubby), and wanted to know what others have done in similar circumstances. Would it matter if he was the last? It was a memorable experience and will never leave my mind. That's part of what threesomes are all about aren't they? Memories? Spice? Bettering your sex life? Why not have one a month? Makes sense, the more the merrier. Keeps hubby and I on our toes. You never know what could happen. We just so super secure in our love and so accepting that if one of us loses the battle, it was meant to be.
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Registered: 06-01-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:05pm
Hubby is very satisfying, but it can't compare to having all of you fulfilled at once and the excitement of new sex.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:09pm
IMO, if I had to have sex with other men to have that sexually fulfilling feeling, my relationship with my hubby would be seriously lacking. My hubby and I might have some other issues to work out, but screwing other people is not one of them.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:11pm
To each his own.
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Registered: 06-01-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:23pm
Some people do other sexual acts other than threesomes to add spice, does that mean that they're lacking otherwise? You will also hear how awesome, outrageous, fulfilling, etc. it was(which is why they do it.lol)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:35pm
How SAD for you both!

Why not just divorce so you both can have sex with whomever strikes your fancy without having to be concerned for one another's feelings?

I'll never understand people who choose this lifestyle AFTER they marry.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 5:55pm
The bottom line for me in all this is that I don't understand being married, but then desiring and craving other men and/or women and acting out on those desires. To me (and my hubby) that is cheating. Even though everyone has given their consent and are even there in the room watching it all. I don't understand doing that. Probably why my own threesome experiment was so upsetting. It was upsetting to see my hubby put his penis in another girls mouth and vagina. VERY!

I guess this is one of the reasons we are headed into counseling. Not so much the threesome experience we had long ago, but him wanting to have group sex - not actually HAVING sex with other people, but having another couple in the same room/area. I don't get that!? At times, it DOES sound very enticing, but in reality (when I'm back to reality and not wrapped up in my husband's fantasy), it makes me feel funny!

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Registered: 06-01-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 6:06pm
No need to pity us. We're married because we're committed(to one another and our children) and are very much in love. We just don't view sex as limited to each other. Our bodies crave sex with others----we enjoy watching each other fulfill that need.

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