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Threesome
| Tue, 06-01-2004 - 11:05am |
Hubby and I had a threesome(our fourth) with a man a month ago who was incredible in bed, and who was well equipped. Unlike all of the other threesomes(two were FMF), he is a man that my husband works with. We socialize with him often, and he's unattached(has been for almost two years), and he's sexy as all hell! I find myself thinking and fantasizing about him all of the time, wanting to have more sex with him, and I believe that I'm emotionally involved to some extent. He was over yesterday for the holiday, and at one point he looked at me and said we have to "get together" real soon, and then he winked. Has anyone else ever gotten so attached over the third-person in a threesome? If so, how did you proceed?

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I have to echo Tish here. If you were so truly committed to each other, then sex with each other would not be so boring, trite, or dwarfed. Dwarfed is a funny word for you to use by the way. Your hubby must be a rather small man. Especially since you are all wrapped up in this other guys size. It is very saddening to see that someone who claims one thing can show so many the complete opposite and not realize it. Oh well, your life. Good luck.
I said that sex with my husband seems trite compared with a threesome because that's the truth, of which you seem to agree. Hubby is a great lover, and I love having sex with him, but it still can't compare.
Some believe that I'm being dishonest by ommission. This is the arrangement my hubby and I have. We began having threesomes over two years ago and we discussed it for two years prior to that. We agreed that anything goes, and that's the only true way that we can enjoy them for what they are. We understand the consequences, of possible attachment, but we feel that if that happens, it was meant to be. We're free birds really. We love each other so much, that we like to tempt the gods. We trust that whatever happens, happens for a reason. No need to discuss each and every feeling and rate each partner openly. I really don't want to know, all I want to know is that he enjoyed himself. It works for us.
I will continue to have sex with Mr. Hotstuff because that's what I want to do. Hubby knows what he said to me the other day because I told him. He wasn't surprised, in fact he expected it because they had also discussed it at work. We only have sex with those we are extremely attracted to, so for all I know he could have felt the same way with the women we had sex with. They're gone now, and Mr. Hotstuff will be one day too. With that in mind, I'm going to enjoy him to the fullest.
I appreciate all of your input. Hubby and I do love one another very much, we do have an intimate relationship, but realistically sex within a threesome makes it dwarf in comparison-----which is why we do it. We have an anything goes policy, and feel that if someone can steal our hearts, then it was meant to be. We also accept that there will be others who are better skilled than either of us. It all comes with the territory. So far, so good. Four threesomes and counting.
You can try and trivialize it any way you want, but if your SO and you feel that threesomes are *stunning* *awesome* then you're meaning to say they're better. One could also state that if your one-on-one was so fulfilling, satisfying, stunning and awesome, then there would be no need at all for threesomes at all. There's a reason we choose them despite the high risks involved all around. They have to be awesome and stunning or why would anyone take those risks.
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