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Threesome
| Sun, 05-09-2004 - 8:57pm |
We have been married for more than 5 years, we have children, love eachother, and spend a great deal of time staying in ggod shape. In the last month, after years of joking and talking, we have had 1.5 threesomes. The first was with another man, a good friend of ours. We didn't have intercourse, but it was four straight hours of licking rubbing and kissing. We had a great time.
The following week, and it sounds crazy, but we did almost the same thing with a good female friend of ours. It didn't go nearly as far, but it was wonderful as well.
My husband and I have never felt closer, more honest with each other or more comfortable with eachother as best friends.
We are going to do it again....
Has anyone else done this and had a positive experience?

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The day my partner says he wants another person in our bed, is the day I say that if I'm not enough for him......then it's been nice, adios!
In my opinion, sex, or sexual activity is NOT a game, or an entertainment for the evening, it's an expression of love between two people.
My DH and I could never share ourselves with others outside our marriage, though. We believe in monogamy and find after 28 yrs. of practicing it, that we have never been closer or better partners.
To each his own though.
Edited 5/10/2004 1:57 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Have to agree with the other posters here. You are playing with TNT here. What happens if one of the two of you enjoys the third person more than their SO? Could you watch your husband have intercourse or oral sex with another? Can he comfortably see you do those things? What happens if one of you sees the third without the other? Are you prepared to destroy your relationship for the sake of sex? These are all questions you should seriously discuss with each other.
However, if this is a road that you feel called to travel, make sure that you have rules laid out before hand, and follow them to the letter:
1)Who will touch whom and in what way? Kissing, intercourse, oral, orgasms etc. etc.
2)Who will be involved? Friends or strangers?
Make a list, and be honest about what you could and could not watch your SO do with another person. If that changes during the actual act, you both need to honest.
It has been my experience that MOST cannot stay within this lifestyle for long. In my humble opinion, this gradually erodes a sacred bond between the two of you.
I think Kat said it best when she described sex as a way for two people to become closer...I believe wholeheartedly that that is true. Sex is really the ONLY thing that a couple shares exclusively with the other. It's a bond that IMO should never be tampered with.
Good luck.
Scott.
Edited 5/10/2004 1:25 pm ET ET by jeephead
I think YOU are confused about the purpose of the board, jeep. This is an OPINION board, where yes, you'll get support, advice AND dissenting points of views! And any time you post, you should realize that.
IF the OP wanted only positive responses, she should post on a swinger's board or the Taboo board. Yes, she and her DH are fine with it NOW but it will also benefit her to hear the downside of the lifestyle, as well, and there IS a downside!
None of us learn anything surrounded by "yes people" who agree with everything we say though!
Edited 5/10/2004 10:53 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Edited 5/10/2004 10:57 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Angel
You may want to review some of your earlier posts on Taboo etc. concerning your experience with a threesome (3some gone bad). To me that is the perfect reason for really talking and deciding if this is something that you want to do. There is the potential for a lot of pain here. You experienced a lot pain from your situation...I suspect that you still are considering the angry tone of your post. My post was not meant to be judgmental...I just mentioned that most are not able to pull off this lifestyle (that is true). Most my not all. There are obviously people that have had this experience, and continue to do so without problems. But, most cannot (as you have learned). To me, sex is not worth destroying a loving relationship...it's just sex, it happens in the mind, and we can "play" at multiple partners without actually bringing someone into the bedroom.
In the long run living out a fantasy (making it real) is not nearly as important to me as living out my reality. We have a beautiful, nurturing relationship that has been healing and satisfying for both of us. This works for me, and for most if they allow and feed it. I don't mind if others do something different, but she did ask for opinions, and that was mine.
Peace brother.
Scott.
Scott.
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