if you're not comfortable then don't do it. it possibly could ruin your relationship. my bf and i are both interested in it, but both think it would cause problems within our relationship. we're only interested in FMF and i don' tknow if i could handle watching another woman having sex with him and i don't know if he'd want me watching that. i'd have to be really good friends with the girl and with that i'd fear ruining a friendship and i'm also afraid of my bf leaving me or changing his mind on loving me and maybe him liking her more than me or something which could encourage cheating. i just have too many fears and horrible esteem to do something like that. maybe someday, but for now, there's way too many worries.
I'm new on these boards and thought I would comment on the threesome issue since i recently had a very interesting threesome experience. First mfm 3some....and it wasn't planned!
It started with a drunk discussion between my bf, bf's roommate Jeff, and me about how most girls are a lot more into sex real early in a relationship and why girls stop giving blowjobs later, etc. They say its because girls are a lot more "fun" when they are trying to impress or "get" the guy and then shut down once they have reeled him in. Progressed into a juvenile argument over the last time i gave bf a blowjob and then into a dare to give him one that night. Feeling challenged, I decided to show them both and give him one right then and there.
Well, about 15 minutes later my top was off and my bf was begging for full-on sex. I was so turned on by that point that I just went for it! I had always had a fantasy about having sex in front of multiple guys, but I had always imagined a bunch of hot strangers. But it didn't take long to get over the initial nervous feeling because i glanced over at Jeff and he was masterbating. I was surprised, but I felt a lot more comfortable knowing he was also exposed and enjoying himself and not just sitting there staring at us. My bf put on a great missionary performance while I watched Jeff and had one of my best orgasm ever (omg!). Bf finished on my chest like he always does and then we had a little awkward moment as we were done and poor Jeff was sitting there on the couch holding his dick. After about 10 seconds of us just kind of smiling at each other, Jeff stood up. I was scared to death that he was going to ask to have sex with me. But instead he asked Bf if he could cum on me as well. I was relieved that he didn't want to have sex, but a little annoyed that he asked Bf instead of me. Bf looked at me and I said I didn't care as long as he was okay with it. Jeff made quite a mess on me and the floor and then we had a good laugh before I headed straight for the shower!
My bf wants to plan a 3some with Jeff now but I'm still thinking about whether I'm ready to do it yet. I was completely turned on my watching Jeff masterbate while bf and i had sex and even letting Jeff cum on me, but I'm not sure that is all bf has in mind. As for our relationship, bf and I are as close as ever. He claims he's not worried about feeling jealous and even said he wants to watch me have sex with Jeff. I'm a little more skeptical--and I'm a little worried about having regrets later. Has anyone else had a 3some with no actual intercourse with the 3rd person?
Welcome to the board, Jenna. I think when you are in a relationship, and want to have a 3-some experience, it's very important for you and your BF to talk about all of your feelings and any rules you would want followed beforehand. It can take a while to really think it out and find the right person.
It sounds like your BF is comfortable with Jeff being the guy. It's a big step, especially since they're room mates as well. Often, it's recommended that friends don't come into the mix because it can cause problems for the friendship too. If you don't want intercourse to be part of the deal, regardless of the third person, then make sure that's clear to everybody before the evening begins.
Hopefully some others will be by to share experiences with you. You might also want to visit the Taboos board. On that board, there's a folder for Open Relationships, so you'll find several others who have been in the same place you are now. Of course, you're welcome to share your experiences here also -- we always love updates!
Thanks! I've real a lot about 3somes on this site now and I think I'm going to hold off on everything for awhile. I'm open to discussing doing something again, but I don't want to end up feeling like saturday night entertainment for my bf and Jeff after they've been drinking. Plus, I'm not sure if I'll ever be totally comfortable with intercourse with anybody other than my bf...and I think that's what a 2nd encounter would lead to.
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I'm new on these boards and thought I would comment on the threesome issue since i recently had a very interesting threesome experience. First mfm 3some....and it wasn't planned!
It started with a drunk discussion between my bf, bf's roommate Jeff, and me about how most girls are a lot more into sex real early in a relationship and why girls stop giving blowjobs later, etc. They say its because girls are a lot more "fun" when they are trying to impress or "get" the guy and then shut down once they have reeled him in. Progressed into a juvenile argument over the last time i gave bf a blowjob and then into a dare to give him one that night. Feeling challenged, I decided to show them both and give him one right then and there.
Well, about 15 minutes later my top was off and my bf was begging for full-on sex. I was so turned on by that point that I just went for it! I had always had a fantasy about having sex in front of multiple guys, but I had always imagined a bunch of hot strangers. But it didn't take long to get over the initial nervous feeling because i glanced over at Jeff and he was masterbating. I was surprised, but I felt a lot more comfortable knowing he was also exposed and enjoying himself and not just sitting there staring at us. My bf put on a great missionary performance while I watched Jeff and had one of my best orgasm ever (omg!). Bf finished on my chest like he always does and then we had a little awkward moment as we were done and poor Jeff was sitting there on the couch holding his dick. After about 10 seconds of us just kind of smiling at each other, Jeff stood up. I was scared to death that he was going to ask to have sex with me. But instead he asked Bf if he could cum on me as well. I was relieved that he didn't want to have sex, but a little annoyed that he asked Bf instead of me. Bf looked at me and I said I didn't care as long as he was okay with it. Jeff made quite a mess on me and the floor and then we had a good laugh before I headed straight for the shower!
My bf wants to plan a 3some with Jeff now but I'm still thinking about whether I'm ready to do it yet. I was completely turned on my watching Jeff masterbate while bf and i had sex and even letting Jeff cum on me, but I'm not sure that is all bf has in mind. As for our relationship, bf and I are as close as ever. He claims he's not worried about feeling jealous and even said he wants to watch me have sex with Jeff. I'm a little more skeptical--and I'm a little worried about having regrets later. Has anyone else had a 3some with no actual intercourse with the 3rd person?
It sounds like your BF is comfortable with Jeff being the guy. It's a big step, especially since they're room mates as well. Often, it's recommended that friends don't come into the mix because it can cause problems for the friendship too. If you don't want intercourse to be part of the deal, regardless of the third person, then make sure that's clear to everybody before the evening begins.
Hopefully some others will be by to share experiences with you. You might also want to visit the Taboos board. On that board, there's a folder for Open Relationships, so you'll find several others who have been in the same place you are now. Of course, you're welcome to share your experiences here also -- we always love updates!
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Thanks! I've real a lot about 3somes on this site now and I think I'm going to hold off on everything for awhile. I'm open to discussing doing something again, but I don't want to end up feeling like saturday night entertainment for my bf and Jeff after they've been drinking. Plus, I'm not sure if I'll ever be totally comfortable with intercourse with anybody other than my bf...and I think that's what a 2nd encounter would lead to.
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