Tightness

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Registered: 10-17-2005
Tightness
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 9:12pm
My boyfriend complained that he has been frustrated during sex because it takes me a long time to orgasm, and if I don't orgasm, I am very tight during penetration. What is a normal amount of time before climaxing, and how do I relax enough without climaxing?
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: megannyc1
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 9:24pm

The best way that you can relax without an orgasm is to spend plenty of time with the foreplay. That includes everything from the making out through to oral sex. The idea of foreplay IS to make sure that you are ready for intercourse and are aroused, turned on and lubricated and relaxed.

Another thing you should consider is that you won't have an orgasm if you aren't turned on or relaxed in the first place. Orgasms don't just happen, and they don't then make you relaxed. It usually happens the other way around - you get turned on and aroused and relaxed and then you have an orgasm. Your b/f has kinda got things around the wrong way.

Get him to slow down and stop rushing for the intercourse. Make sure that you are wet and aroused before he tries to penetrate you. You might want to suggest that he tries giving you more oral sex, or spends more time using his hands on you. You might want to get a little bottle of lube too. It might help and it's fun anyway. Whatever you do you want to spend more time playing around and getting turned on. The more turned on you get, the more you'll relax and get lubricated. And you may have an orgasm along the way too.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: megannyc1
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 9:54pm

Just agreeing with what Westie had to say.


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