tips on anal sex~plzzzz

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Registered: 07-10-2004
tips on anal sex~plzzzz
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Sat, 07-10-2004 - 8:07pm
hello all........I have enjoyed anal sex with my boyfriend a few times, but I need some tips with this subject... hes rather big .. and lately it has been really difficult for him to enter me , we use lube, and I have really really enjoyed this act several times, but we arent really very experinced at it at all, we both enjoy it once we can get me relaxed enough to get inside me, but the last few times we tried we had to give it up because I couldnt get lose enough or relaxed enough...............any suggestions welcome. thanks...............girl X

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 8:25pm
There was a discussion about this before and it was widely agreed that having to wear diapers due to anal sex would be an extreme. I would venture to say the majority of people who engage in anal sex are cautious and careful. To get to an extreme such as having to wear diapers, you would have to be shoving big dildo's and whatever else up there with no lube, no tenderness and every day, etc. etc.
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Registered: 05-14-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 10:57pm
This could be true. I read this artical once, it really stuck with me. It was about gay men and "anal" they called it. Having much damage done, etc. But come to think of it "anal" could have meant fisting. After that I really was afraid of anal. Many had to use diapers, had anal fistulas anal herpes, etc. Maybe I messed up the terms.
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Registered: 05-14-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 11:23pm
Letecia set me straight. I am thinking back to when I first heart about anal. It was related to gay sex. And they were into pain, fisting, etc. I guess if there is no pain, then there is no damage right?
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Registered: 05-14-2004
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 4:54pm
Yes and no. If done carefully enough there isn't the damage of having to wear diapers but I have read in many o' many magazines that say those who engage in anal have leakage problems much later down the road. But not so much later (like when bladder control is lost), just because the anus 'gets used to' being stretched - for those who frequent anal daily or every other day - and cannot hold itself as tightly closed anymore. But if they have enough warning that they "have to go" leaking is not much of a problem. I have read this in magazines like Stuff, FHM, and either Maxim or Playboy. My SO gets these magaizes all the time and I really do read them because of the articles. :) And a few porn stars have also said the same thing, that if either the right precautions are not taken before engaging in anal (to get the anus used to an object being there) or it is done too frequently, this can happen.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 7:49pm
I think that probably does and can happen with gay men. They only have one place to put, ahem, things and it probably gets over-used, abused, etc - whether they are with one SO or many.
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Registered: 04-21-2004
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 1:45pm

The answer to the OP's question is to simply go slow (VERY slow - take

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