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tired
| Wed, 06-30-2004 - 1:10am |
Ok, i really need advice on this one! I have been with my present bf for about 7 months now and we both are ready for sex. The only problem is I have no idea how to be the women on top. I am not a virgin, i had sex with my previous bf but with him on top. My present bf likes a women on top. He has had a gf before who has been on top while having sex. He is more experienced with it then me also. I would like to try to be on top but i have no idea how to move exactly and he says me going up and down is easier. I really wouldnt know. Also though i immatate with clothes on being on top with grinding and rubbing my clit on him yet it gets very tiring and i am not sure that i am going 2 be able to last very long during intercourse. Will it be less tiring to ride him up and down then rubbing? Because i think i am more worried about being unsure about how to do this position and also if im going to burn out quickly. Does anyone please have any suggestions because they would really be very helpful in this situation! Thanx a whole bunch!

Hon, you've gotta stop thinking so much ;-)
If you're on top too you can stop for a bit and have a breather if you really want - just stop moving and sit there on him!
With girl on top you can move up and down on him but you'll probably enjoy doing more or less what you do now - rubbing your clit against him (while he's inside you) will feel very good for both of you.
At the end of the day it doesn't really matter what you do or how long you last in each position because you can do different things. Stop thinking and see what feels good.
He says you going up and down is easier? NOT! Usually, if he likes "thrusting", then he should be on top, and he should do the thrusting. When you're on top, don't try to imitate a man. It's hard, and yes, you will probably "burn out", or at least your legs will.
Most women find being on top can feel great, but it's a lot easier, and a lot more pleasure if you just get on your knees, not your heels, and then move your hips slowly and sensuously....in a grinding motion. Unless you're in very bad shape, you won't get tired that way.
Also, if you DO get tired, that's when you say....."ok, I'm done, your turn now". When you have intercourse, you don't have to do one position only....you switch off....missionary, you on top, doggie, whatever comes to mind. How boring it would be if you only did one thing all the time.
Most men like it, not because it's "easier" for you to do it, but because they can relax for a few minutes, and just lay there and watch you. Their hands are free to touch you, too. I hope he's not just being lazy!