Too Aggressive?
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Too Aggressive?
| Thu, 11-15-2007 - 12:05am |
So, a lot of my guy friends have told me that they like it when a woman can take control in bed and be aggressive, make the first move etc- basically take some of the pressure off them.
The other night I was with my partner (who has told me that I'm a little shy in bed) and decided I would try being a little bit more aggressive. We were smooching and I started to give him a hand job then he suddenly told me that I was being way too aggressive and it was turning him off. I was shocked because I thought he would like the change of pace. So, I calmed it

Your guy friends told you what THEY like, and they don't speak for all men!
Welcome to the board, niquesrr.
Everyone is different, and their tastes also change over time. I don't know how long you've been with your guy, but that can make a difference too.
If you just grab and take what you want (or think he wants you to do), then it may well be a turn off to him. If you take your time, arousing him in the process, making him want you to touch him, then it should be met with eager anticipation.
You could also try doing a striptease or lap dance, masturbating or touching yourself for him to watch, whispering in his ear what you would like him to do to you, or telling him how what he is doing at that moment feels to you.
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Every person is different and after such escapades as you had that night, I find that is the easiest time to talk over what happened and what you liked or didn't like about it. He may have just thought you were being too rough with his member or something. Being aggressive doesn't necessarily mean being rough, but more taking charge. Just talk to him and find out what he likes and what he doesn't.
Along with the suggestions Misty gave you, you can talk dirty to him, which drives most men crazy! It may feel weird at first, but it is so much fun!
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