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Too big?
| Sun, 03-02-2008 - 4:06am |
Hi all,
A friend of mine recently told me that her BF's member is too big, and that intercourse is painful. Now, I'm not very experienced sexually, as I've only had a handful of partners and never encountered this kind of problem, so I honestly didn't know what to offer her in terms of advice. But, is there a solution to this? Like, different positions that one can try?
I personally didn't think that 'it' can be to big, but that just attests to my naivety.
Any comments/advice would be much appreciated!

You're not as naive as you think.
Welcome to the board, allydiagon.
It's difficult to say what might be helpful, but it could be that she's not getting enough foreplay. Foreplay will help assure that she is properly aroused -- which in turn will open her vagina up and provide natural lubrication. She may also wish to try adding more lube for intercourse.
Position can make a difference too. Here's a tool from iVillage that might be helpful:
Perfect Position Selector
http://choosers.ivillage.com/love/perfect_position/launcher.php
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Thanks for the advice... I've passed it on to her.
Seems the real problem is that he's too long, and hits her cervix... which can be pretty painful, as I'm sure most of you know!
Now this "Position Selector" is pretty good, but it only has 1 recommendation for this type of problem (Slide). Does anyone have any other positions she could try?
Thanks!
totally agree with the other replies - lots of foreplay, kissing, oral
WOT works well to avoid hitting the cervix. If they enjoy missionary, then I suggest he just doesn't go all the way in. She should be letting him know that she is experiencing pain - if he doesn't, he'll just assume everything is fine. She can also have him sit straight up instead of laying on top of her or have him adjust his position so he can't insert himself all the way.
My BF is a big long for my comfort and we have to adjust. I often just ask him to not go so deep and I typically have my hands on his hips as a sort of bumper. He knows if he feels resistance to my hands, he shouldn't push any further. They can play with pillows and see how that helps. If her bum is elevated, it makes the angle more pleasant. At least, for me it does.