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| Wed, 01-03-2007 - 3:57pm |
my bf and I have been having sex from pretty much since the time we have been going out. near 9 months. honestly i feel like i don't pleasure him enough because his penis is seriously, i'm talking huge. im not trying to brag or anything... but i've been with other guys of course- so but i figured after this long.... it wouldn't hurt so bad. if we do it alot during the week, it's not a problem but if we wait a week or so it becomes a problem where it really hurts. i've tried lube once or twice it seems to help a little bit, is that our best bet? he gets frustrated cause obviously i want to have it but it hurts too much some times. i want to satisfy him so bad- but i get so frustrated with myself. i feel like it's my fault sometimes. suggestions? THANKS :)

The problem isn't that he's too large, it's that your vagina is too tight. Usually, it's because there's not enough foreplay, or because you've had pain before, so you can't relax enough to allow your vaginal muscles to relax. You need LOTS of foreplay to be aroused and relaxed, so that your vaginal muscles relax, too. Just remember, one day a baby will pass thru your vagina, and if it's big enough for that, it's big enough for any penis, which cannot be bigger than a 7-8 pound baby!
Yes, lube is your best bet until you can learn to relax enough to allow your body to make enough lubrication...or you might just be someone who can't lubricate enough, and you'll always need it. But even lube won't relax your vagina.....only lots of foreplay with lots of clitoral stimulation will do that. If he wants "his" then he has to take the time to give you "yours"!