Too dry

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Too dry
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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 5:50pm
I'm always embarrassed starting out having sex with a new man because I don't produce much lubricant.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: ifallgal
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 8:24pm
I hope some of the men on the board will give you their thoughts, but I don't see why it would be

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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: ifallgal
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 10:23pm
I can see how a guy may equate lack of lubricant to lack of sexual response. Kind of like lack of firmness in an erection. I don't think it will be a turnoff, it will only make him work harder. I think as we get more experienced we learn that all girls are not made equal.

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Registered: 09-17-2004
In reply to: ifallgal
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 12:01pm
Post menopause I became too dry. I was almost embarassed to bring it up with hubby but then I got some KY jelly and we both enjoy reaching for the tube. It has become a fun foreplay. I think most men would love bing stroked with lube. BTW, we just tried KY Warming jelly and it is a definite plus and fun.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: ifallgal
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 1:17pm
I actually like the replies so far. VERY helpful!

If your sexual experience with a new man is derived from a loving trusting relationship, then I don't believe you have anything to feel embarrassed about. He really should understand that different women have different functionalities that may or may not require the addition of lubes.

Whenever you need the lubes, it'd be a good idea to always have them VERY near you, such as on the nightstand next to the bed or something. Perhaps placing them in plain view as well would help ease any awkward moments for when you need it. Someone last year revealed that she did that while also mentioning to her new bf at the same time that she just wanted that nearby "just in case" cause sometimes she gets a bit nervous with a new guy and it takes more time than she'd like, only sometimes, to get lubed up enough on her own, but in NO WAY did that mean she wasn't ready or didn't want it. That seemed to be the best advice I ever remember reading regarding this actually. Hope it helps.

Of course that leaves the caution of making sure women ARE ready and properly aroused in the first place. Let us know if anything has helped.

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