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| Sat, 01-13-2007 - 4:32pm |
My husband ejaculates anywhere from 1 to 3 minutes after he puts his penis in. We have foreplay before, but I'm still unsatisfied! I feel like we're just getting started and then all of a sudden it's over, sometimes before I even really know. He'll slow down and start to stop and I'm just shocked at how fast it was. We both read a sex book that said the average couple has sex for 15 minutes. I take that to mean that the man's penis is inside for 15 minutes. I've tried going slow, cutting down foreplay hoping he won't be ready, all kinds of things. I talked to him about it today and brought up the topic of the book and he said he thinks that means the 15 min. includes foreplay. He said he can't help it, that's just the way his body is. How long do most couples have intercourse and if it's longer than 3 minutes, how can I get him to last longer?

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It's mental as in, mind over matter. He has to learn some self-control, something almost EVERY guy needs to do. It's not his body, it's his mind.
You think he'd be a minute man sleeping with the most physically repulsive woman you could find for him?
He can learn how to control his ejaculation by controlling his thoughts
They have great information..lectures, videos etc....Good Luck!!!!
Kate
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Hey! Well thanks for your advice/support. I was very nervous about bringing it up and we've been having sex regularly for over 3 months now. I waited for about 10 minutes after we had sex and then very nervously brought up the book we had both read together and how it said the average couple has sex for 15 minutes and that I noticed we only had intercourse for a couple of minutes. He was defensive, but he wasn't angry and didn't seem permanently affected. Of course, he was convinced that the book meant foreplay included and that all guys only last a minute or two so he felt like he was correcting me. Now I have to figure out a way to tell him about everything I am now learning and how he can control himself. I have no clue exactly how I will do that, but I will let you know when I do. If you talk to your guy about it first let me know how you bring it up please!
Oh yeah, and yes my husband has always been this quick, but we didn't have sex very much and I figured it was because he wasn't used to it. We were both virgins before we had sex so I thought it was inexperience.
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