Too Heavy to be on top
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Too Heavy to be on top
| Fri, 08-26-2005 - 5:23pm |
I am let's say a size 20-22 and I have always been afraid to be on top because I am afraid I am too big so I will not do this. Any comments on how I could feel more comfortable?

If you're having sex with someone, they know what size you are; it doesn't bother them or they wouldn't be there in the first place--remember that.
I recently saw a Dr. Phil episode where a woman said the same thing only she didn't want to have sex at all and he told her that if her size bothers her and makes her self-conscious, it is then interfering with her husband's(who didn't mind her weight) pleasure(because she didn't want to have sex at all). He then recommended that if she CAN'T come to terms and accept herself as she is, then she should lose the weight because it's driving a wedge between them. So it's really all in YOUR attitude and what you can accept and can't. Either have fun with yourself the way you are, or change it....you can't have it both ways. Hugs to you.
Edited 8/26/2005 5:42 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Like Nike says...JUST DO IT! Seriously, how about turning out the lights out until you feel more confident?
But familiarity breeds confidence and comfort. The more you do anything, the more confident you usually feel. Every position takes some practice and getting used to, but they're all doable.
KNEEL over him, don't try to balance while squatting. Place your hands on his chest or shoulders for balance, then grind yourself against his pubic bone. Don't try and mimic HIS thrusting moves though because it's the wrong angle for WOT. Do what feels good to you. There is NO reason why you can't do this position.
Just have fun, THAT'S the point.
Edited 8/26/2005 5:50 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
If a man is with you, he knows what size you are! If you wear a XL......then he doesn't think you're a size 2! As the others said, this is your problem, and if you are to heavy, you have to accept that (as your partner must or he wouldn't be there), or you need to lose weight.
Also, do you think you look heavier sitting up than you do laying down? You actually look better in the upright position......because everything isn't falling to the side.
If a man cares about you, he loves you for who and what you are, NOT your body.....and he doesn't care that you're heavy. If it's casual sex, again, he's not worried about what you look like.......he's looking for sex.
You need to love yourself if you expect someone else to love you!
You could buy lingerie that hides your trouble spots while showcasing what u like.
K