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| Thu, 06-26-2008 - 5:26pm |
OK so here is a new one....even for me...
I have been a lucky guy this week - my normally low(er) libido wife has been a little more agressive sexually and so I like to take advantage and make sure I curl her toes a bit.

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OK well I am really glad to hear this is not uncommon but I am with the other posters significant other - I wish I could just strap her in and see what happens when i keep her going - heck even if she peed instead of FE'd it would be worth it because she had an O that made her lose control of herself....Heck I'll take one of those any day!
I am sure I have gotten her to FE once before but she has never mentioned it.
Any chance you can get her to look up information on the internet? A very female-friendly site to learn about the female anatomy (besides here, of course) is the-clitoris.com. There is discussion there about female ejaculation.
If not, then maybe a book that covers female orgasms would have a section on FEing.
I know that I was a bit skeptical about it before I actually experienced it. I don't think I would have relaxed enough to allow myself to FE either. I learned some about it here and other places on the net, DH had read about it but was skeptical too. Finally, in a book, I read a description with advice on how to FE, and practiced a little. Even if just in those few paragraphs, the book was worth every penny I paid for it!
Unfortunately, I don't remember the name of the book -- or I'd share that with you too.
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Unfortunately, I don't remember the name of the book -- or I'd share that with you too.
TEASE!!
The biggest "key" I got from reading that book was that you need to push when you feel the urge to pee. Makes sense -- because we're wired to hold those muscles tight and not release anything unless we're on the toilet.
The first few times I tried, as soon as it felt like anything was coming out, I stopped pushing and closed up shop. The first time I did it enough to feel something come out, it was wonderful, but I still cut it off quickly. Next time I tried, it was gushing and more than once. After that, it was a while before I could stop it or control it during times that my g-spot was being stimulated. I've been able to work past that, and actually not FE if I don't want to (or at least most of the time -- there are those times when you get overwhelmed and stuff just happens, LOL).
Go push ......
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I'm not sure why it is such a big deal to make someone "squirt" if it is not an orgasm.
I love having orgasms too. But having an orgasm is different than having your g-spot stimulated, and it is different than female ejaculation. The three are separate; however, they can often accompany each other.
For me:
~ A clitoral orgasm is a very intense orgasm. Once it occurs, I typically need a break before having any further stimulation there. My vaginal muscles usually contract tightly, and I'm likely to twitch involuntarily (I call them aftershocks).
~ A vaginal orgasm feels great; however, I can usually continue with having sex for a period of time. Usually during this type of orgasm, my vagina clenches and holds on, but because the thrusting is being continued, the muscles become tired more quickly. This is the type of orgasm that I will become dry after more often than not (probably because of the added friction), so the sex can start to become bothersome a bit if it goes on for too long, or if there is no additional lubrication added. That lubrication might get added by me by natural means, but it seems that only occurs if the type of stimulation changes -- like g-spot stimulation begins. (Changing positions is good for this.) There are also different sensations that lead to me having a vaginal orgasm, depending on where the stimulation is happening. Sometimes after having a vaginal orgasm, if I do have a lot of natural lubrication, I want the sex to become rougher if we are continuing. This helps me build back up to having another orgasm. (I guess there are a lot of unpredictable factors with this type of orgasm, at least for me.)
~ A vaginal orgasm that is combined with clitoral stimulation is very, very intense. My vaginal muscles both contract and spasm, some twitching occurs, and within a short time. The muscles will all stay contracted until there is no stimulation of any kind and they have had a chance to ease back to a relaxed state. It doesn't leave me dry afterward, but it usually leaves me spent and very satisfied. There's a huge added bonus if we both cum at the same time.
~ A g-spot orgasm occurs with stimulation of that spot. It feels incredible and is sometimes accompanied by FE. FEing with that orgasm creates a whole different sensation -- a release. When I have a g-spot orgasm and FE at the same time, it's as if the peak of the orgasm is extended. Definitely creates a feeling that you just want to hold on to and repeat. This sort of orgasm doesn't leave me dry or spent, and it feels so good (in a different way than a clitoral or vaginal orgasm) that I just want to keep going and having more and more. Having a partner who helps in that area is awesome .... he loves it too! When I have a g-spot orgasm, the muscles near the vaginal opening tend to clamp down and hold more than spasm.
~ A g-spot orgasm that is combined with clitoral stimulation is something that just makes you sort of dance in place. It's awesome, exhilirating .... makes you say oooooooo, ooooooo, oooooo. Throw in FE with that combination, and it's something that definitely takes your breath away -- makes you wonder where it all came from, leaves you trembling with a very large smile on your face. If my DH hasn't already cum, the acts my body goes through during this type of orgasm definitely puts him over the edge as well. There are often so many feelings going on at one time, you can't keep track of them all. It's like parts are pushing (releasing) and pulling (contracting) at the same time.
I enjoy all the types of orgasms and all of the feelings that go along with them. I don't set out to have any particular kind during partnered events (I do sometimes during solo events), but I definitely would miss having g-spot orgasms and FEing if for some reason I was no longer able to get there.
"We all secrete fluid when we orgasm anyway...allegedly through the skene's glands and some doctors feel it comes out of the vaginal canal."
The fluid that is secreted from the vagina and the fluid that is secreted from the skene's gland are very different things, and caused by very different events. Secretions begin in your vagina during the arousal process, it is thick and mucous like, white in color. A lot of things affect the amount of fluid that each of us produces vaginally (like hormone levels, hydration, and arousal level to name a few). During times of high arousal, I'll often have a good bit of this type of fluid even with the absence of an orgasm. The fluid that is ejaculated from the skene's gland is clear and sweet smelling/tasting, and copious. It makes a huge mess (which some people may not welcome), and is so thin and plentiful, that it often splashes (me in the face during intercourse when we are continuing).
"I'm not sure why it is such a big deal to make someone "squirt" if it is not an orgasm."
To me, this statement is like saying, "I'm not sure why someone would have enjoy oral sex if it doesn't lead them to an orgasm." Everything about sex is pleasurable, feels good and can be enjoyed. Afterall, some never reach any type of orgasm, but that doesn't mean they can't/won't enjoy sexual activity. With FE, there is a feeling of release that is very unique and different than the feeling of release you have when you have an orgasm.
Another thought about the difference between FEing and having vaginal secretions during orgasm ... When I feel that I am having vaginal secretions during orgasm, those secretions feel as if they are coming from a depth of my vagina. FEing is generated by a feeling that is much closer to the opening of the vagina, the depth factor isn't really involved at all unless you have more than one spot being stimulated at the same time. (My rabbit is really good at that!) Since it hits all the right spots at one time (depth, g-spot, clitoris), there is a whole new unique feeling with this type of orgasm.
It's okay if you don't want your partner to strive for g-spot stimulation or to personally try to FE. It's okay to be satisfied with having orgasms -- they're great. I would just recommend that you not be close-minded to the possibility of trying to have either a g-spot orgasm or FE because there's just no way to understand how those 2 things feel unless you have experienced them. We could all write descriptions of what/how we feel with each type of orgasm, or each combination of events, but those words still can't describe everything that you feel when they happen. Also, the sensations may vary for each of us.
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Thanks Sandi - First I have to say I enjoyed your story about the first time you explored this FE thing.
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