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Too many partners?
| Sat, 05-22-2004 - 10:41am |
Howdy. I'm so mad. Last night my bf of almost 2 mos. broke up with me. We were discussing exclusivity and he asked me how many people I had sex with. I told him 19. He said it won't work, and left. He's only been with 2 partners. How can he be jealous, that was my past.

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honey
OK! Arrrrckkk! I'm having the ladies over for the Mary Kay thing today! So, I'm trying not to stress, but can't post anymore today. Wish me luck!
enjoy your party! :)
honey
Jeephead, you know, women may be "lucky in that regard" and men may "have things a bit rougher" in easily obtaining casual sex, what about having sex that is satisfying. In this regard, it's usually easier for men to orgasm and have some kind of enjoyment with a stranger, and a man, at least, can get bragging rights with his buddies for his "conquest". Women are much less likely to have satisfying sex in a casual relationship and tend to get vilified as "sluts" if they engage in it too often.
You and I both know that making love with someone you care about and are familiar with is way, way better than almost any kind of casual sex, and this is very, very true for men as well as women.
taoist
honey
Interesting thread.
To Jeep, what if your SO at 40-years-old said, 66 men? Would you have run for the hills or stayed? Could you have handled that? Because I'm 29 and I can tell you my number is a lot higher than yours....would you freak out if I was your SO? Or would you still love me for me?
MANY times when a woman's number is high, she's wary to say it because MOST men will react negatively.
To Honey, not all women have orgasms only when she's with someone special. And the women who have casual sex.....are the ones that can orgasm with anyone. Those that don't, usually are more emotionally connected to sex and need a person whom they love.
To anyone else reading.....
I don't think it's always just about a "number" per se...because.....my xh asked me. I wanted to be frank and honest. I told him. He freaked. His first words out of his mouth, "I'm going to vomit". BUT, in the end, do you know what made him sick? NOt
I really disagree. My fiance's had sex with 11 or so women. However, he was my first and only. Yet I keep surprising him. Everytime I try something knew he's like (jokingly) "Where did you learn to do that? Are you sure you haven't done that before?" He loves it. I've done things to him that no other woman has. I'm just a creative person and I feel very secure in our sexual relationship. Maybe some people need to learn from others. But there are plenty of people like me who prefer to try new things with one special person. If I hadn't met my fiance four years ago and had been with 25 random guys instead, I wouldn't have experienced 75% of things I have with him ... I guarantee it.
I also have close female friends that have had 1 night stands, casual relationships and serious relationships. Yet when discussing sexual experiences, I've done things they would never think to do. Being selective in *who* you'll do doesn't mean you're selective in *what* you'll do. lol ;-)
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