Too much pubic hair

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Registered: 08-04-2007
Too much pubic hair
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Sat, 09-29-2007 - 3:05pm
I never trim or shave my pubic hair and I was wondering is it possible to have too much pubic hair? My dh has never said anything about my pubic hair before but the other day after sex he said that I seemed to be getting hairier down there. Do you think I should trim a little bit?
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 9:23pm

No, pubic hair has nothing to do with your lubrication.

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 10:18pm

Use this opportunity to ask him if maybe he wants something different. Many people on this board will tell you that only your opinion matters, but you are in a relationship. Maybe a lot of pubic hair is a turnoff for him. Trim it. We're not talking about world peace or religion here, it's pubic hair. If it really was a turnoff for your partner, would you want to keep it the same way? If you say yes, the real question here would be why?

It sounds to me like he'd like to see you with less pubic hair - he would find that more appealing/sexy/whatever.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 10:28pm
Welcome to the board the_big_c, and thanks for joining in the conversation.









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Registered: 09-13-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 5:55pm
Yes, there IS such a thing as too much pubic hair. My wife is living proof right now. She usually trims but she has let it go for a while now and she looks like Dr. J. down there with the big afro. I personally think trimming is a MUST. It gets so thick down there that the hairs stick together (gross), makes access (penetration or oral) more difficult... If you're not ready to shave or be waxed... go with the trim... you could even invite him to trim you if you trust him... I've trimmed my wife several times... Its pretty fun. Anyway,g good luck and hope you figure it out.
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Registered: 08-23-2004
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 7:16pm

No problem. Just a general thought though. When it comes to appearances, I see absolutely nothing wrong with having my partners wishes and preferences help decide. Isn't that part of being a couple is about, compromise and knowing what each other prefers?

If a woman prefers her man to be with or without a mustache, it's okay to say so. It's also okay to consider that when it comes to decide whether or not to have facial hair.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:41pm

Welcome to the board Steve-oh, and thanks for joining in.

Do you groom your pubic region as well?













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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:48pm

I think it's fine for a partner to voice their preference. I don't think it's right to make your own preferences more important than those of the other partner -- regardless of what that's centered around.

I also think it's okay for one partner to wear their hair (facial, pubic, or anywhere) a certain way knowing that the partner prefers it that way. It's still the choice of that person though.













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Registered: 08-23-2004
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:23pm

I hear what you're saying, but in my humble opinion, I think we have strayed too far into "it's all about me, and want you want doesn't matter". We're talking about pubic hair, not helping aids patients on christmas eve, or deciding if the kids will go to a religious or public school.

If your partner would prefer your pubic hair trimmed, the question you might want to ask yourself is "why not?". I mean really, what's the big deal? Yes, of course it's the person's choice, but in a relationship you have to consider the overall impact of the preference.

Change my hairstyle for my partner? Why not - is he/she not the most important person in the world to me? Get a piercing cause my partner would like me to have one? ...err...ah...no.

Does that make sense?


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 7:08am

"If your partner would prefer your pubic hair trimmed, the question you might want to ask yourself is "why not?". I mean really, what's the big deal? Yes, of course it's the person's choice, but in a relationship you have to consider the overall impact of the preference."

I personally wouldn't have a problem with trimming my pubic hair to something that would interest my partner more, but as far as the "why nots", I can also think of several there. Many woman have complained about "little red bumps", itching, fear of cutting themselves, and the overall time it takes having a grooming ritual.

"Change my hairstyle for my partner? Why not - is he/she not the most important person in the world to me? Get a piercing cause my partner would like me to have one? ...err...ah...no"

I don't see a significant difference between your two examples here. Also, there is the entire concept of mutual respect. You're stating that your partner should be the most important person in the world to you ... but you should also be the most important person in the world to your partner. In such a scenario, one partner wouldn't pressure the other.













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Registered: 02-26-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:11am

My dh never said anything about me, but I started trimming just to try it.

Wendy

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