Too Small For Me

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Registered: 06-30-2004
Too Small For Me
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 11:19am
The man I am living with and have recently became enagaged... Has a small penis, that I can not feel during intercourse. And I am bacoming physically unattracted to him, because of this issue.

The physical side of a realationship is important to me. Unfortunately this is missing. Everything else in the relationship is fine. But I feel this is a major concern.

Any suggestions?

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 2:25pm
I am basically just going to chime in with what has already been said. What positions have you all tried? My DH is long and girthy, and there are positions that I can't feel him as well in. Positions where I have my legs together seem to give me the most feeling, so maybe that may do the trick for you. If you do care about this guy, keep experimenting and I am sure you two will find some good positions to help you get past this dilemma.

Leticia

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 4:35pm
If the size of his penis turns you off.....then I suggest you break the engagement, and start looking for a man with a large penis. Hopefully, he'll be a decent man, who'll be all you want in a husband and father.

However, for most of us, since intercourse is only a PART of the sexual process...and for many a small part, since for most women the vagina is NOT our main sexual organ.....does the man do anything else to satisfy you? If not, then maybe he needs some information on how to make love to a woman, which consists of a LOT more than intercourse. He has a tongue and fingers that probably could do a lot more for you than the little penis.

I'd rather have a man with a small penis, who treats me with respect and knows how to make love......than a man with a large penis....who doesn't know how to treat a woman.

It's your choice, but if you're not happy with him, do him a favor, and move on.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 4:57pm
Dancing - I would check out the other sex boards. You may receive kinder and friendlier advice. A lot of women might not even know what it's like to be with a man who is very small, where you can't even feel him inside.

I don't think you're being shallow. I think this is a legitimate issue for you and your needs. Some other boards to check out are the Taboo Board, How to Have Hotter Sex, Sexual Orgasms & More, and Fantasyland. People are very understanding and more open to hearing issues such as yours.

Good luck!

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Registered: 05-09-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 5:01pm
Let's say that a girl only dates tall guys, or a guy dates only cute girls. Is that any different than a lady wanting a large penis?

I only dated girls who I beleived were (a) smart, (b) funny, (c) cute. Bust size didn't really matter to me. Does the fact that I only wanted to date a smart girl make me shallow for not liking stupid girls?

Given that I've seen many woman on this board say that they liked oral more than intercouse, I'm sure all the small penis men can just take a cunnilingus class and live happily ever after since there are plenty of woman who could care less (see the preachy ones on this post) who don't care about penis size.

Meanwhile those of us with large penises and oral skills will get the smart, funny, and cute girls (just joking here ladies).

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 5:07pm
Exactly. Every person has their preferences. When a guy's penis resembles one of my fingers, I'm sorry - that affects me!
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Registered: 10-09-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 5:07pm
So you equate being stupid or having no sense of humor with having a small penis?
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 6:05pm
I do agree with you Jeff. She didn't dump him as soon as she saw his small penis, so I don't belive she is coming at this from a shallow point of view. She has obviously been with him quite some time and wants a future with him. Lack of physical pleasure can cause problems over time. Her lack of pleasure is related to his size. It's not like she's saying she only wants men 7 or bigger. We all keep saying over and over that we are all different, and while some women have been able to find pleasure with a small partner that doesn't mean that everyone can.

Leticia

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 6:53pm
I'm assuming I'm one of the preachy ones you're talking about.

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Registered: 10-09-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 6:53pm
So dropping someone for something they can't change, after becoming HEAVILY emotionally invested is not shallow? How do you even break up. Do you make something up?
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Registered: 10-09-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 6:56pm
Tish, the OP came here(unless I'm mistaken) for opinions on her dilemma. In other words SHE ASKED FOR THEM. Don't apologize for speaking your mind.

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