Too Small For Me

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Registered: 06-30-2004
Too Small For Me
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 11:19am
The man I am living with and have recently became enagaged... Has a small penis, that I can not feel during intercourse. And I am bacoming physically unattracted to him, because of this issue.

The physical side of a realationship is important to me. Unfortunately this is missing. Everything else in the relationship is fine. But I feel this is a major concern.

Any suggestions?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 8:25am

Fantastic post Yasmin!


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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:12am
Very good point free. How do you break up with a guy over that? Just tell him??? I don't think so. I would never tell a girl I was breaking up with her because she had to small of breasts. So what do you do? Personally breasts are not that important to me, as long as she has them, there size is completely fine with me. Big, small, makes no difference. But then again they do not have a sexual function for me. Tiana, you have bothered me with your comments. I thought more of you than that. Oh well. Live and learn right. I have no problem with certain wants, and needs. That is all fine and good. But after investing time, effort, and emotional commitments to someone, just to dump them over this, I do think proves shallowness much more so than someone who just leaves after the first time. They are both shallow, but shallow with complete humiliation is what this op's fiance is headed for if she is not able to find a way.
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:18am
No one is argueing your opinion, they are just saying that maybe this guy needs a better woman. Maybe this guy needs someone who is tighter, less shallow, and much, much less worried about his physical issues, and more interested in him. That is all anyone here is really trying to say. I really feel bad for the little guys out there. There are to few women out there who don't care, and way to many that do.
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:23am
And pointing out that everyone is shallow, which I disagree completely. Many men are shallow, many are not. Those who are, need to grow up. Maturity has a lot to do with the shallow nature of people. I used to be shallow, and still am to a certain degree. I fully admit it is wrong. And I try to fix it everyday. You make some good points about this board though Tiana, but regarding the rest, you are being just as shallow as we are describing. Oh well. I guess I was wrong about you. LOL
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:29am
You are so confusing. One post you tell the op to leave cause she can't deal with her mans package, and the other you say you agree that she should love him no matter what?? That is a complete double standard. Why should R stay with you if your breasts are gone?? You no longer have breasts and this poor guy has a small package. Same but different in my book. Same in that both R and OP would be shallow to leave in that situation. But, that is just MHO
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:33am
Yarn and free, you are both being very petty, and imature. Lets grow up.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 11:58am
So agree with this Free. IF you love a man, then you love all of him and learn to adjust to what YOU may perceive as his "shortcomings." But it's perception that can be changed. If you're only in a relationship for sex and it's not satisfactory, then move on.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 12:45pm
I would agree wholeheartedly, Yasmin. Isn't the eptitome of shallowness judging someone's value and worthiness of love by the physical only? Surely, people want more than a big penis and a pretty face in a partner?

What happened to the ability to adjust and grow? What happened to changing a perception when it's beneficial to a relationship? Sorry, I don't get tossing aside a partner when they don't meet my "specifications."

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 1:22pm
I'd dump him -- nothing more unattractive to me than a little weenie.

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