This is too strange!! What is going on?

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Registered: 03-18-2008
This is too strange!! What is going on?
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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 10:02am

Ok, So here it is,

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:11pm

Well, if you've posted here before, it seems to have been under a different name .... so I'm gonna go ahead and say, "Welcome to the board."

Your story does sound familiar ....

It sounds to me like he has some issues. Perhaps problems with ED, perhaps he masturbates a lot, perhaps he's self-conscious and doesn't want you to see him in the daylight. Since he did go ahead and take care of your needs, it makes me think he's a bit self-conscious and the daylight issue bothers him. That could be because of ED issues, or it could just be him.

Of course, all of this is just speculation. You could continue to let things go and see if your relationship takes on a different direction ... or you could just accept him for his word .... or you could talk to him about all of this.

My experience has been that when a person doesn't want a committed or serious relationship, they get difficult to read. Perhaps having feelings that go back and forth themselves, and trying to fight any feelings he might be developing as well as trying to keep you from developing feelings. I don't know if that's whats going on in your case, but it could be part of it.





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Registered: 08-19-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 2:08am

His age? Weight? Smoker? How often does he drink? Previously married?


These may seem like personal questions about your SO, but the answers may lead to where the trouble lies. Indeed, he may have an ED, about which he is very insecure. Then again, there may be other issues.


For many of us men, believe it or not, sex is a source of anxiety. We tend to "worry" about everything in bed. One issue I had was injuring my penis. A woman once came down on it wrong, in a