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Too tight?
| Wed, 01-03-2007 - 1:30am |
Hello everyone,
Me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now and we are thinking about sex soon. She hasn't had sex yet but I have. When she went to her gyno he told her that sex may be difficult because of how tight she is. She can't use tampons because of this as well. So basically I was just wondering how much of a problem this would be. I would imagine with foreplay and such she would loosen up to an extent but would that be enough? Thank you

Unless the Doctor diagnosed her with something specific, like Vaginismus, it's likely that she was simply not relaxed for her exam, which happens to many young women. It's unfortunate that he "planted that seed" in her mind, too. Now she'll be worried, and that's sure to cause problems.
Make sure you take LOTS of time for plenty of foreplay, oral and manual clitoral stimulation, and use lots of lubricant, because being scared will cause her to be dry. All you can do is try, and see what happens. If she's too tight, then stop, and just try another time. If you cause her any pain, it will be worse the next time.
Maybe she's nervous. Maybe she was brought up to think that sex is "dirty", and/or her vulva/vagina is nasty. Sometimes the mental aspects of it can cause problems, too. Be patient with her, and don't let her worry about it or get upset if it doesn't work. Assure her that in time it will work, and it should work out fine. It may take a while, but for most women, it's not a problem.