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Too Tight?
| Mon, 06-20-2005 - 1:05am |
Im a virgin, but recently a coworker and i were going to have sex. The problem was, he couldnt get it in because im so tight. It even hurt when he was trying to finger me.
Any suggestions on what i can do?

Hey surfbabe. LOTS of suggestions headed your way, I'm certain.
To start, it could simply be you not being use to it all and are actually , whether you consciously mean to or not. Without more info, it could really any of a number of different things...best guess for now with what info we DO have from you is that you weren't aroused , even if you were aroused, it may not have been enough. It just sounds like you might have tensed up by the sounds of it so far.
Here's a couple of links that should be interesting read for you regarding this...hope they can help:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=16775.1
http://the-clitoris.com/
C H A R A C T E R
Did you get a lot of foreplay and were you aroused and lubricated enough?
As the others have said.....the logical reason(s) for that happening are that you were nervous, and that there wasn't enough (or any) foreplay.
Your vagina is a muscle, and it's "normally" closed tight. When a woman is properly aroused with foreplay, the muscles relax, you produce lubrication, and it shouldn't be painful.
The first time for most women is stressful. You may be willing, but that doesn't mean you're "ready". Sometimes it takes several tries to get it right. Assuming you and the co-worker know what foreplay is....that's what you have to concentrate on. It might take an hour, it might not happen at all. If it doesn't, you wait until another time, and try again. Even if you manage to relax, you might still not produce enough lubrication. Someone else suggested having some lubricant handy, and using it.
Just your description of what happened sounds like maybe this is a sex only thing, and that's even more difficult for a virgin. It works much better if it's with a partner for whom you have some feelings, and he has feelings for you. Some young women make the mistake of "doing it" just to get rid of their virginity...and that's not going to make for very good sex. Maybe he's not the right one to give it up to.
Also, sex with co-workers can be a tricky thing. It's ok while it lasts, but if it ends, there can be very uncomfortable moments at work.
Make sure you really want to do it with THIS person......and then make sure you're properly aroused and well lubricated, and you shouldn't have a problem.