Too wet during sex

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Too wet during sex
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 11:51am

I am in a new relationship aprox 3 months, we have had sex a number of times, but during sex i become wet to the point where feeling is lost and it just becomes depressing, i have recently come out of a relationship of 5 years and if anything i had the opposite problem. I don't understand why this is happening when i have never had the problem before.

i get extremley nervous during sex (does anyone know if this could cause the wetness ?), i think because he has been with alot more ppl than i have and experienced alot more than i have, and i am scared to try new things or do certain things with him incase i don't do it right or not as good as his previous parteners.

My BF makes me feel confortable and does not make me feel like im being compared in anyway, but it just doesn't seem to change. i have always had good sex in the past and i want it to be the same with my new boyfriend. any suggestions ????? as i have never had this problem b4 and i am completely lost as to what i should do to fix it.Help Meeeee pls

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 1:56pm

Being nervous would usually result in lack of wetness, not more wetness.


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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 4:48pm

If a lady is self-conscience about her wetness during sex, there might be some hesitation to stopping the action, reaching for the tissues, taking care of business, and ok, let's continue now.

A lot of guys are flattered when a lady is quite wet, as it can be an ego booster. If a guy finds it too wet to his liking during the activity, he is in a much better position to change it than a lady is.

The flared head has a perfect shape to pull out excess lube on complete, or nearly complete withdrawl. Also, on the withdrawl, simply hesitating for a bit causes a lot of lube to evaporate from the guy. He will automatically change the amount of lube to achieve the amount of stimulation his organ prefers.

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 5:01pm

I've always produced a lot of natual lubrication and it can cause problems with friction but it can be managed.

Using tissues to keep things drier and switching positions often, keeping your legs closer together, and using different angles of penetration are all ways we have used to deal with my abundant lubrication over the years.

Hormones regulate how much or little we produce but if you have recently gone on or switched BC pills, then that could be the answer to your change. I certainly wasn't this wet when I first became sexually active either. It happened over a period of time as I matured.

I would encourage you to work with your body, though, not agonize about something you can't change.

And remember, most men think it's great when a woman gets really wet! They attribute it to their own ability to turn you on. What they don't know won't hurt them though! LOL!

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 5:16pm

Your whole post seems to be about the guys liking.


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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 7:19pm

> Your whole post seems to be about the guys liking... What about the woman's liking?
Yes, I have an idea what guy's like. Not being overtly telepathic, it is good when a woman communicates what she likes. Do women ever hesitate to communicate exactly what they like during the activity?

>What is there to be hesitant about grabbing a tissue, it takes all about 2 seconds.
I guess are are two kinds of wetness. External and Internal. A tissue would take care for the former, but a guy is in much more contact with the latter. I don't think a tissue would work well there.

Are there gender differences? Do guys feel internal wetness much more than women do? Do women feel external wetness much more than guys do?

>And what about the stimulation she prefers?
If a lady prefers to stay wet externally and internally, she has a lot of say in the matter. She needs to voice her preference. Certainly woman know the ways a guy can reduce wettness and can tell him to leave it there.

>half the time he doesn't even know I do it... The hand is quicker than the eye!
If a lady wishes to reduce external wetness, while being so intimate with another, why do the quick magic trick? Why not let the partner help? What's more intimate and romantic than partners placing fingers together, and together move the tissue around where two become one. Heck, don't need a tissue. Just join two fingers together and slowly move them together all around the activity. Feel how each partner functions and becomes one. Just a suggestion.

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 8:23pm

Sumguy, if you read the original post, she looses feeling because of her wetness.


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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 11:06pm

Hey,


Tish and kat had good thoughts and advice.


Sharon

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 11:23pm

>>>Certainly woman know the ways a guy can reduce wettness and can tell him to leave it there.


huh?


Sharon

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:42am

Sometimes, it's not about the amount of lubrication, but more the consistency. It may be very slippery so no matter how much you wipe, you still won't feel anything. The best thing to do at that time is to ask him...."Do you feel anything?" Chances are he may not be either. If so, then just change off to some other sexual act...oral or manual and try again later. That's what we do. Intercourse isn't fool-proof.


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