Top 5 sex myths heard most often are...

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Top 5 sex myths heard most often are...
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:11am

I'm sure we all have our own unique list of what we individually feel are the top 5 most often heard MYTHS regarding sex. So...what are the top 5 in book??? I'll start with my own, keeping in mind that after reading message boards and articles on a woman's website as well as across the internet that my views change constantly anyway, LOL!!! ;D

1.

IMHO, couldn't be further from the truth. We enjoy the tantrics and foreplay so much that many times we never make it to coitus anyway. Can't speak for everybody though.

2.

Yes, sexual intimacy is "healthy" for our non-sexual relationship bond, but its not "necessary" just because. So that would be my #2 myth, simply because it describes many couples out there, but not 'all' of us.

The very thing that 'caused' my physical relationship with Lady Para to start with was the very "non-sexual" relationship we had prior to anyway. To say that no more sex would destroy our relationship would be a lie to us. Its our non-sexual relationship that causes our sexual relationship, and not the other way around. Every couple is different, so its that particular 'generalization' that makes this #2 on the list.

3.

There is obviously no way to accurately count who's who among this particular topic in #3, but the fact that so many find it "okay" to generalize like this is what makes this type of mindset so annoyingly egotistical IMHO.

Examples across the internet: A guy can't be appreciated for cunnilingus because he's supposed to like the scent and taste anyway, or a guy is viewed as asking how to please his woman only because it makes him feel more successful and thats it, or guys study less about women's anatomy than women do about men's, or guys are the "uncommitted" gender, or guys need to be reminded to please women and never the other way around, or guys want less intimacy than women do, or guys are more unclean than women are...these are things that women on different articles and message boards across the net AND IVillage have actually been saying about men.

Too often the good guys out there get washed away in the negative thinking because the focus is so much on the bad guys. Yes, I'm VERY thankful for Mrs. Para.

4.

This one humors me the most. When it comes to anyone claiming that a certain size is better, then that is not a problem for THAT person; let it be and every woman enjoy her OWN preference without questioning someone else's.

Size DOES make a difference, YES it does. Every woman will individually enjoy a size that is for her only. She will NOT enjoy something that is too big and pains her, obviously, and will barely be penetrated with the rare micros that actually exist out there as well. Just two common cents that are too often ignored across the land for some reason.

5.

There are too many happily married couples out there that are wholeheartedly thankful for announcing--in this fashion--that the partner was the ONLY one worth it. For many of us, abstinence would not make a difference for whatever reason, but...

...I for one will not teach my future child that abstinence until marriage is an unrealistic concept. We all have our own views on how special a sexual relationship really is, and thats mine.

#5 is a myth to me because it generalizes that view but doesn't represent mine nor Mrs. Para's.

Okay folks, those are the top 5 on my list, at least for this day anyway, LMHO!!! What are yours???

 

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 2:12am

Good ones. I can't come up with 5, but based on the boards - here are my contributions:

She thinks: He's gone limp, it must be because he's not attracted to me

He thinks: all women should orgasm during intercourse every time. Anything less means that someone is dysfuntional

She thinks: If I don't shave my pubic hair off, no man will date me or have sex with me.

He thinks: If her vagina seems looser, she must be having an affair with a bigger bloke

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Sun, 03-27-2005 - 5:39am

>>She thinks: He's gone limp, it must be because he's not attracted to me<<

I just told this theory of mine to DH, and he said that I'm totally wrong. He reckons that him not being attracted to her (body or mind) would be a major cause of ED. He then cited my lack of being able to get aroused with my ex-h as being a case in point. With that I cannot argue.

And there is that Vince Gill song with lyrics of "It's Hard To Kiss The Lips At Night That Chew Your Ass Out All Day Long". And we're not talking analingus here ;-)

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Sun, 03-27-2005 - 8:32am

WOW!!! Those were GREAT ones! You're absolutely right, they actually do get brought up quite a bit on this very board.

I'm so use to what is shared across the net's other boards/articles as well that I forgot about some of the ones right here. Oh well, I had my top 5 anyway though. Nice catch. ;)

(Vince Gill line cracks me up, LOL!!!)

 

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