On top tips :)

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On top tips :)
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Sat, 08-27-2005 - 7:15pm

Anyone want to give me some tips at being on top? I don't mind being on top during sex but it seems kinda boring... I wanna spice it up and go wild and blow his mind away. I mean he loves it when i'm on top, but to me I feel like... I dont know, blah. I have trouble keeping rhythm, too. When I'm doing "the frog" with my back to his face I'm fine, but when it comes time to ride I feel that I suck so I'm not very enthusiastic when it comes to do it. I wanna be hot though :)
So I ask you sex gods and godesses out there for your advice and tips. What can I do? ENLIGHTEN ME!

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Registered: 07-12-2005
In reply to: luvnut8
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 7:42pm
I was a little shy about that position at first. I love to be on top now. It's the best position for me to be in to orgasm. I do a few different things to help feel more confident on top. One is to rest my hands on the bed and let my hips do the moving. The other is to hold on to dh's hands while I sit up on top and he's caressing my breasts. Another thing is to lie flat against your partner and let your hips do the moving while you caress his chest with yours. I'm sure others will have some good tips that works for them. The best thing is to keep experimenting and you will figure out what works for you!
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Registered: 07-26-2005
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Sun, 08-28-2005 - 12:21am

I can't imagine ever being bored on top! What do you mean that you can't keep the "rhythm"? Are you bouncing up and down, trying to imitate HIM? Leave that for him.

Kneel, not "squat" on your heels. Sit on him, get comfortable, then just slowly start grinding into him. Move your hips in a circular motion, or a back and forth motion. You'll be getting the full effect of clitoral stimulation and possibly "g" spot stimulation, and you won't be bored!

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Registered: 12-28-2004
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Mon, 08-29-2005 - 5:26am


Yeah wow, good practical advise.

DW can grind a mean WOT act. She holds my hands in hers and pin them down and does things with her mouth on mine. She dangles her breasts and rubs her nipples on to mine and I just die and go to heaven.

phew !

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Registered: 08-08-2005
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Mon, 08-29-2005 - 10:00am

My SO seems to like it when I put my feet on either side (no knees on the bed) He said that it is a different and stronger sensation.


If your partner is vocal...it's fun to tease him by putting the tip in and grinding on that. Soon he will be trying to thrust himself so he can go in all the way. Pinning him down is sometimes the only way to do this because he tries so hard! And it feels good for me because the ridge on the

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Registered: 07-14-2005
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Mon, 08-29-2005 - 5:06pm
I like to lock my feet around his legs and pull myself downwards this is a lot of clitoral stiumlation. My dh likes it when I put my feet flat by his hips and move up and down with my knees.
I recommend if you aren't to comfortable yet to use lots of lube it really helps.