Touching me in the night
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Touching me in the night
| Thu, 06-10-2004 - 11:07am |
Well...I woke up the other night and found my husband groping my body while I was sleeping...I was so freaked out about it that I just pretended to be asleep. The next morning I woke up and realized how disgusted I was about the whole thing. I talked to him about it and he denyed the whole thing and still does. I have caught him doing this before and I told him to never do it again. I guess he doesn't listen. Either way I am really freaked out about it...I feel like I can't even go to sleep near him...is this a normal guy thing and am i just making to much of it, or is it just a really wierd thing for him to be doing.

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I assume your DH knows about all that so you need to make sure that he understands how disturbing this is for you. I know you say that he's awake, but he may not be since he has no memory of it. IF he's awake, then he would surely stop. If he's not, then you need to wake him rather than suffer in silence.
Edited 6/10/2004 4:49 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
I hope you've already gotten counseling for the abuse.
I too have to wonder about your feelings of "disgust"......why is it disgusting to have your husband touching you, or even "groping" you, whatever that means? Aside from the "rudeness" of disturbing your sleep.....why is it disgusting for your husband to want to touch you?
It sounds like there's more going on than just "sleep groping" in your marriage.
Just remember that your husband did it because he loves you and finds you and your body very attractive. He was doing it with the best of intentions. Not the worst of intentions.
Maybe it IS time to try some counselling but if you give it a few days and keep reminding yourself that he did it for good reasons you might get over it - or at least be able to live happily with it.
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