Touching me in the night

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Registered: 03-12-2004
Touching me in the night
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 11:07am
Well...I woke up the other night and found my husband groping my body while I was sleeping...I was so freaked out about it that I just pretended to be asleep. The next morning I woke up and realized how disgusted I was about the whole thing. I talked to him about it and he denyed the whole thing and still does. I have caught him doing this before and I told him to never do it again. I guess he doesn't listen. Either way I am really freaked out about it...I feel like I can't even go to sleep near him...is this a normal guy thing and am i just making to much of it, or is it just a really wierd thing for him to be doing.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 10:39am
Dear OP,

Counseling is a great idea. You will know when you don't need it anymore, so just stay as long as you need.

As a rule of thumb, if you notice an extreme emotional reaction to something, that is a good sign that you may be stuck in patterned behavior. We all have patterned behavior, but if you have had a history of sexual abuse (especially as a child), it tends to manifest with touch. Just be aware of it and it can be healed.

Love,

Scott.

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 10:51am
When ever I do it to my partner, they have become aroused and ready for anything, But we are not all the same, it's a two way street. You either like the idea or you don't.

Perhaps it's not the why, but the who?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 11:54am
No, sexual abuse will never be "forgotten", but

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